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BACHELORETTE PARTEA

No one knows my wants and needs better than I do, so I decided to plan my own bachelorette party and just delegate tasks to my bridesmaids. All I wanted was two simple things: a dance class and a tea party.

With Adobe InDesign, I created these little itinerary cards to map out the day. If you don’t have this software, Canva and Figma are free alternatives! I handed them to my bridesmaids with short sets that I bought for the dance class. At first, I tried looking for wedding themed swag, but realized that basic solids were a safer choice. I just thought these tees and shorts were more practical and versatile than anything with bachelorette slogans.

I love dancing, but I rarely get to take dance classes with my friends, so I booked a private hip hop class at Rae Studios in San Francisco. It was so fun getting to share my favorite activity with my favorite people. I was also mesmerized by how airy, bright, and well decorated the studio was. It was a place that I was simply happy to be in.

After the dance class, we had brunch at Lapisara Eatery, which is just a five-minute walk away. They have so many yummy dishes to choose from that are beautifully plated. What I was most excited for was their assorted iced lattes that come with the cutest bear-shaped ice. Some of the flavors were ube, lavender, and salted caramel macchiato, just to name a few.

We all went home to get freshened up, and then I had the girls over for afternoon tea. I’ve never had a tea party before, so I had to make it happen! All of the tableware are things that I’ve collected from Poshmark, Home Goods, and other random shops. For the decor, my Maid of Honor bought me a tassel garland and “SHE FOUND HER MAIN SQUEEZE” banner from Etsy. Since I couldn’t find another bachelorette banner that I was envisioning, I just used the one from my MoH as a stencil to DIY a “BACHELORETTE PARTEA” one.

For the menu, we had…

For the rest of the night we just ate, drank, played games, and spilled lots and lots of tea.

+ private dance class | Rae Studios


+ “SHE FOUND HER MAIN SQUEEZE” banner | Etsy (currently unavailable)


+ “BACHELORETTE PARTEA” banner | DIY


+ tassel garland | Etsy


+ gold foil curtain | Amazon


+ arch | Wayfair


+ short sets | Free Birdees


+ dress | Kiki Riki (Poshmark)



xx

Dana

SAVE THE DATES

My fiance and I decided to save some time, money, and paper and do evites for the wedding, so I wanted to make our save the dates extra special. I always gravitated towards the gold foiled vellum that I saw on Pinterest. The design is very elegant, yet simple and straightforward, so I knew this was the style I wanted. 

After clicking through a shit ton of websites, this Etsy package was the most affordable option I found with the font and format that I liked. It also includes a choice of different colored envelopes, so we went with gray. We needed less than 60 cards, but we ordered 80 just in case. 

Everyone always attaches the vellum on top of their photograph, but we requested for it to be on the back, so that our photograph is clearly visible. I love vellum designs, but I always thought it was strange to have the photograph covered with hazy text. 

Metallic wax seals are extra embellishments that I was always drawn to. For the true old-fashioned experience, I wanted to buy wax and a custom monogrammed stamp, but I figured that we’d rarely use them again. Since we’re only mailing save the dates to a small group of people, it made more sense to buy these wax seal stickers. We still got to customize our monogram, so I designed ours using a free font from DaFont, called “Chopin Script”.

We’re lucky in that we live close enough to most of our friends and family to hand them our save the dates in person. There’s roughly 20 people that we need to mail to, so I only went all out and wrote amateur calligraphy for those few. There’s really no point in including envelopes for everyone else, especially if they’ll likely get tossed. For the calligraphy, I tried my best to imitate another font, from DaFont, called “Nathalia”.  

+ save the dates | Etsy

$151.81 for 80 cards / envelopes ($1.90 ea)

+ wax seal stickers | Stamptitude

$48 for 25 ($1.92 ea)

+ stamps | USPS

$12 for 20 ($1.67 ea)  

+ ring boxes | Etsy

$53.50 ($26.75 ea) 

+ his wedding band | Revolution Jewelry

$657


+ her engagement ring | Loop Jewelry

$795


+ her wedding band | Etsy

$402.40

+ engagement photography | Katie Clare Photography

We hired Katie to shoot our wedding, but most of her

wedding packages also include an engagement

session. This is one of the many reasons why we

chose her over all of the other photographers that I

found.

SAVE THE DATES TOTAL = $211.81

xx

Dana

DIY BRIDESMAID BOXES

This was a really fun project for me, since I love planning, crafting, decorating, branding and packaging. I wanted this unboxing to be a special and memorable moment for my bridesmaids, so I tried to personalize everything as much as possible. I know that starting the wedding planning process can be daunting for most people, so here are some creative and affordable ideas that can hopefully inspire you.

What’s inside the box?

1. polaroid pictures | $5.32

If you download Shutterfly’s mobile app, you can get unlimited prints. All you have to do is pay $5.32 for shipping. Since I’m always taking pictures, I thought this would be a cute way to reflect on some of the fun moments we all had together.


2. mini bottles | $14.48

Most people like to celebrate with champagne, but not all of my girls can drink. I bought sparkling apple cider from Dollar Tree, for those who are sober, and champagne from BevMo!, for those who like to get tipsy.


3. hair ties | $10.72

Not only are these useful, but they’re really cheap and easy to make. Most Etsy shops that specialize in elastic ribbon, have lots of colors to choose from. Just make sure that the description says “elastic” because they all look the same, and I accidentally bought non-elastic ones before. I chose the ⅜” width, and 1 yard per color is enough to make 4 hair ties. I just cut them into 9” pieces and then knotted them at the end. I then cut construction paper into 4” x 3 ¼” pieces to hold the hair ties in place.

4. candles | $36

I bought these lovely candles from a female Black-owned business called KSM Candle Co. They have such a wide selection of handmade soy candles and a long list of descriptions for each scent. It was really hard to narrow down my choices, but the ones that I bought were Mojito, Citronella, Sunny & Mellow and Black Currant Tea.

5. matchboxes | $11

What’s the use of candles without some spark? I actually bought the matchsticks and matchboxes separately on Etsy, since I couldn’t find the plain pink boxes that I wanted. This method was significantly cheaper, since most of the matchbox packages I saw required customization or large order quantities.

6. paper lipsticks | $7.44

This is a beautiful Valentine’s Day DIY that I stumbled upon on Pinterest. Instead of typing “Will you be my Valentine?”, I just changed it to “Will you be my bridesmaid?” I am a huge lipstick lover, so I thought this would be a fitting way to pop my question. I bought all of the construction paper from Michaels, since they have a wide assortment of colors and textures to choose from.

How did you package it?

+ boxes | Etsy

$6.53

+ ribbon | JOANN 

$9.98

+ shredded paper | Paper Source

$3.99

+ tags | I DIYed all of my tags, but if you want to save time, you can buy them in bulk. I cut the name tags into

2 ¾” x 1 ⅝” pieces and the “Drink Me” tags into 1 ¾” x ⅞”  pieces. 

$0


The total was roughly $100, and including taxes and shipping, it cost about $30 to arrange each box. 


xx

Dana

2020 BOOK REPORTS

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When I was little, I was one big bookworm. My best friend and I would competitively read, during recess, to see who could finish more books in a shorter period of time. As I got older, I started reading less. Once I entered college, I would only read one book a year and, sometimes, none at all. I wanted to rekindle my passion for reading, so my goal this year was to read one book a month.

There are two valuable lessons that I learned this year. One was to decolonize my bookshelf, by trying to read more works from non-cis, non-straight and non-White authors. It’s important to expand your narratives and to not allow White to be the constant default. If you’re only reading books written by people who look and think like you, then that’s another problem. The second was to stop buying books from Amazon and Barnes & Noble, and to start supporting small bookshops, especially Black-owned ones, instead. 


If you’re interested in reading any of the following books, try shopping from one of these sources.


+ Bookshop

+ Conde Nast Traveler

+ The Oprah Magazine

  1. The Wise Man’s Fear by Patrick Rothfuss

    4/5

    This is a fantasy book, which is notorious for being extremely long. This particular one is 994 pages, so if you don’t like long reads, then this isn’t for you. I personally love thick books, especially if they are a part of a series, since I get really invested in the characters and their own little world. 


    This book is like a warp between Harry Potter and Lord of the Rings and is the second part of the series. It’s about a boy who becomes an arcanist, which is basically a fancier word for magician. As a kid, he experienced a terrifying tragedy, so he attends a university to research and master more arcane skills to fulfill a personal quest. 


    Patrick Rothfuss’ first book, Name of the Wind, was a lot more captivating, so this one fell short in comparison. I couldn’t put the first one down, so if you’re into fantasy novels, then you have to read it. Rothfuss has also been in the process of writing the third book for nearly a decade now. This book came out in 2011, so my boyfriend and I have been waiting for him to wrap this shit up.

  2. Becoming by Michelle Obama

    5/5

    Michelle Obama got really candid about her day-to-day life as First Lady. In this autobiography, she shared her life story, from her upbringing in the South Side of Chicago to living and working in the White House. She revealed the lack of privacy and freedom that she had, since they were always shadowed by Secret Service. Even a simple stroll to the corner store would be a major inconvenience, since it would require a lot of preparation and coordination. She also recounted the struggles of raising Sasha and Malia, while Barack Obama served as senator and president, and the racism that she experienced, as soon as the presidential campaign began. 


    Through all of the stress, exposure and scrutiny, she handled everything with such grace. The role of First Lady technically doesn't have any formal obligations, but she made the most out of her influential position. During her eight years in the White House, she launched multiple programs, including Let’s Move!, Let Girls Learn, Joining Forces and The School Lunch, to name a few. Her most impactful contributions were tackling childhood obesity in America and advocating for female education worldwide. 


    The Obamas are the ultimate power couple. Barack and Michelle’s love story is absolutely adorable, and I felt so giddy reading about how their relationship blossomed. This was a very uplifting read, so if you’re looking for a pick-me-up, then this is the book.

  3. Know My Name by Chanel Miller

    5/5

    Chanel Miller is the resilient survivor from Stanford University’s horrific rape case. Most sexual assault survivors want to remain anonymous, but she was incredibly brave to come out and write a detailed story about her entire experience. She wanted to uplift women who have endured the same trauma. She also wanted to expose college’s failure to protect and support survivors and the criminal justice system’s inherent sexism and racism.


    Miller had a unanimous jury, three credible witnesses and plenty of physical evidence in her defense, but Brock Turner still got away with only three months in jail. This is the epitome of White privilege, specifically White male privilege. Miller condemned the media for glorifying Turner as a Stanford swimmer and dismissing his past drug use, criminal activity and sexual harassment. In contrast, the most irrelevant dirt is dug up on Black people who commit misdemeanors, like stealing a damn candy bar. Miller recognized that Turner’s family presumably sheltered him physically and financially through all of his mistakes and failures. In their eyes, they didn’t seem to think that he did anything wrong. Instead, they had the audacity to look at Miller with disdain, as if she was the inconvenient burden that was destroying their lives. In his court statement, Turner’s dad flatly said, “This is a steep price to pay for twenty minutes of action out of his twenty plus years of life.” The Turners had absolutely no remorse.


    As for Stanford’s role, Miller didn’t ask for much. She simply wanted them to add more street lights to the area where she was raped, and to provide other campus survivors easily accessible resources to cope with their trauma. Resolving these issues was a long, excruciating process. Stanford was uncompromising until the press pressured their asses by revealing their lack of accountability. Once they promptly responded to Miller, their cooperation was merely surface level and redemption driven.


    Reading this book was an emotional roller coaster ride. It takes a really good writer to evoke such deep reactions. Miller made me laugh, curse and cry. Her book was ironically one of the few that had me laughing the most, and it’s all due to her witty and charismatic sense of humor. It was also mind blowing seeing her reference so many cities I’m familiar with. She grew up in Silicon Vally, but temporarily lived in Philadelphia. Her boyfriend studied at University of Pennsylvania, which neighbors Drexel University, where I graduated. From the Bay Area to Philadelphia, she kept mentioning all sorts of places that I’ve visited, like Saxby’s and Church of 8 Wheels. It made me wonder if I ever crossed paths with her.


    Miller is one hell of a warrior for turning this traumatic incident into an empowering and enlightening purpose. I had trouble putting this book down, so I finished it within a week. Each chapter ended with a cliffhanger that kept me flipping through. My rare excuses for taking breaks were either peeing or sleeping. Her story is one that everyone should read. My only disclaimer is if you are a sexual assault survivor, this book may trigger you, since Miller included many graphic details. However, it may also be healing, since I read many comments from survivors, expressing how they felt seen and heard. If you don’t read her book, then please read or listen to the victim impact statement that she made in court. It was just as powerful and moving.

  4. The Sun and Her Flowers by Rupi Kaur

    4/5

    This is Rupi Kaur’s second poetry book, following Milk and Honey. It’s full of short poems that are divided into five stages: wilting, falling, rooting, rising and blooming. This collection primarily focuses on immigration, and it had a lot of poems that I could relate to. There was one about her mom that made me cry my eyes out, since I feel the exact same way about mine. For anyone who is an immigrant, or who is the first generation of their family, this book will touch you. 


    Kaur was born in Punjab, India, and she and her family immigrated to Canada when she was four years old. She recounted all of the obstacles they faced, leaving their home country and adjusting to an entirely new culture. She also recognized and valued all of the sacrifices her parents made to ensure a more comfortable and promising future for her and her sister.


    This was an uplifting short read, but it left me wanting more. It wasn’t as strong and thought-provoking as Milk and Honey. Milk and Honey had many poems that I had to re-read and break down to fully digest. I thought these poems lacked depth, in comparison. This book is still worth the read, regardless, and Kaur is definitely someone you should keep your eyes on. She is a badass feminist full of soul, wisdom and elegance.

  5. The Autobiography of Malcom X as told to Alex Haley

    4/5

    I’ve always known that Malcom X was someone of importance and respect, but I never knew what he did to acclaim his recognition. Growing up, we were reminded of and “educated” on Martin Luther King Jr. every single year, but I don’t recall hearing or reading about Malcom X in school. I’m referring to preschool all the way up to college. Therefore, I decided to educate myself, and after reading this autobiography, I feel like MLK and Malcom X go hand in hand. Although they had extremely different styles of social activism, both were essential to fighting for Black rights. Malcom X was shaking up the North, while MLK was making waves in the South.


    I can see that White people don’t want to teach about Malcom X because he was much more controversial, in comparison to MLK. He had a long criminal history, and after prison, he became a devout Muslim who preached that the White man was the devil. It’s no surprise that White people would prefer the peaceful minister over the radical ex-convict.


    Malcom X was actually illiterate and inarticulate, until he was 20 years old. It wasn’t until he entered prison, that a fellow inmate, named John Elton Bembry, taught him how to read and write. Here, he discovered a new passion, and the prison library became his haven. He spent every waking moment reading, and there didn’t seem to be a subject that he wasn’t interested in. He was like a big balloon that absorbed all sorts of information, from Greek Mythology to Occidental and Oriental philosophies. He even combed through the entire dictionary, page by page, to expand his vocabulary. Malcom X initially relied on theft and drug dealing to make a living, which is what brought him into prison. This was a man who went from solely speaking street slang to eloquently leading mosques and rallies of thousands of people. He was a “non-educated” and imprisoned Black man, who went on to debate “educated” White men. He took a discouraging experience and turned it into a new profound path.


    The press constantly twisted his words and painted him as a dangerous person. Yes, he spoke with fiery conviction out of anger, but for valid and understandable reasons. He never hurt a single being, and he never even swore. He was an incredibly influential activist, who had thousands of loyal followers, so White people felt threatened by that. Malcom X held just as many protests as MLK, so I’m astounded that I wasn’t aware of the huge impact he has made. He had a larger support from international leaders than from American ones. He believed that Black Americans and Africans should unite because without international recognition, the fight against oppression wouldn’t be as effective.


    One of Malcom X’s strongest attributes was that he wasn’t afraid of change or admitting his past mistakes. He used to be ashamed of being Black, so he straightened his hair and dated a White woman to gain stature. Then he became anti-White and condemned all White people. Then he realized that not all White people were evil and that he needed to work with them, in order to resolve this race issue. His journey is the perfect example of how no one is perfect, and that everyone naturally evolves.


    This autobiography was a little long, dry and dense, so it may be difficult for some people to finish. Malcom X also recounted raw memories of violent racism, so this is no light and casual story. He uncovered many events that our textbooks intentionally omit. His book provided a concise history lesson of all of the injustices that White societies has caused Black Americans, as well as people from foreign continents, like India, Africa and more. As long as my review may be, it barely summarizes 10% of Malcom X’s insights and values and what he has accomplished. White America has continuously tried to re-write and minimize his legacy, so this is a very valuable read.

  6. The New Jim Crow by Michelle Alexander

    4/5

    This is a very dense book full of research and analysis on America’s racist prison, law enforcement and criminal justice systems. Many people are deceived by the myths that police are protecting us, prisons are locking up violent criminals and legal proceedings are upholding the principle of “innocent until proven guilty.” Michelle Alexander thoroughly exposed how the systems are primarily intended to oppress Black people. To put matters into perspective, she recounted that “hundreds of years ago, our nation put those considered less than human in shackles; less than one hundred years ago, we relegated them to other side of town; today we put them in cages.” She wanted to emphasize that nothing has changed, and that racial caste has merely been redesigned.


    Alexander broke down how the Nixon, Reagan and Clinton administrations collectively built these monstrous systems over time. She identified that the Nixon administration used “law and order” to form “a new racial caste system without violating the law.” Just like Donald Trump, Richard Nixon’s campaign strategy was racialized fear mongering. He perpetuated the misleading stereotype that Black people are dangerous criminals. The Reagan administration later reinforced law and order, by declaring the War on Drugs. Reports found that there was no drug epidemic to be begin with. In contrary, drug use was actually declining in America. This was a fixed strategy for officials to continue exploiting Black people. 


    Ronald Reagan hired media outlets to circulate stories of Black people on crack cocaine. In doing so, he was able to gain strong public support on a slew of detrimental legislations. The Fourth Amendment was basically irrelevant throughout the War on Drugs. SWAT teams were encouraged to search people’s homes without any warning, reasonable suspicion or evidence of criminal activity. Law enforcement was also authorized to keep any cash and assets that they found, while raiding for drugs. Alexander revealed that as “long as the number of drug arrests [increased] or at least [remained] high, federal dollars [continued] to flow.” Revenue was the greatest incentive for the war.


    As the war was taking place, the new legislations barely had any effect on White people. They were being stopped and searched disproportionately less. If they were convicted for the same crimes as Black people, their penalties and sentences were significantly lighter. Alexander shared how “studies show that people of all colors use and sell illegal drugs at remarkably similar rates.” This clearly indicates that the government isn’t concerned with reducing crime, at all. Its top priority is maintaining wealth and power, and the historically successful way to do that is by dividing and conquering, based on race.


    Alexander firmly believes that the Clinton administration was responsible for the current racial undercaste. Bill Clinton tried so hard to win over Republican votes, that his campaigns were revolved around being “tough on crime.” His 1994 Crime Bill caused the prison population to peak above all other presidential records. Alexander stated that America “now has the highest rate of incarceration in the world.” Clinton’s bill included the three-strikes law, which sentenced those who commit two or more felonies to life in prison. Alexander stressed that “a lifetime sentence for a first-time drug offense is unheard of in the rest of the developed world.” The bill also made it legal to discriminate against criminals in almost every way possible. Alexander explained that “once you’re labeled a felon, the old forms of discrimination - employment discrimination, housing discrimination, denial of the right to vote, denial of educational opportunity, denial of food stamps and other public benefits, and exclusion from jury service - are suddenly legal.” These harsh restrictions made it nearly impossible for ex-convicts to get back on their feet. As a result, many Black people were left homeless. 


    This is a deadly loophole that keeps many Black people ostracized. Rather than allocating funds to prevention and rehabilitation programs, the government chooses to expand incarceration and law enforcement budgets. It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to realize that excluding ex-convicts, from all basic rights, will force them to revert back to crime. White politicians know exactly what they’re doing.


    This book is packed with infuriating and heartbreaking information, but this is critical knowledge that everyone should have. My lengthy review hardly scratches its surface. If you can’t manage to read the book, then at least watch the documentary, 13th. It outlines all of Alexander’s insights, and she’s even interviewed throughout the movie.

  7. Thick by Tressie McMillan Cottom

    3/5

    Tressie McMillan Cottom is a writer, sociologist and professor. In this book, she expressed her struggles living as a Black woman in America. She recollected her pivotal racist experiences, from attending school to working in the publication field. 


    Cottom recalled, “the first time a white woman teacher told [her] that [her] breasts were distracting was in the sixth grade. Over the years, white women with authority over [her] have told [her] how wrong or dangerous or deviant [her] body is.” Studies have indicated that society treats Black boys and girls, as adults, far sooner than kids of any other race. On top of that, most Black girls are either mocked or sexually harassed, for their curvy bodies.


    Throughout her career, Cottom has often been forced to juggle multiple jobs, at once. Although writing is one of her greatest passions, she couldn’t afford to solely make a living off of it. She pointed out that “media platforms made more money from black women’s personal essays than any black woman [she knows] of ever made from publishing them.” While Cottom was writing articles for numerous companies, like The Atlantic and The Washington Post, she was also working as a community organizer and sociology professor. She stressed how difficult it is for Black women to get the pay and recognition that they deserve. Her dream is to witness a Black woman flourish in a single, full-time publication position. Rather than being confined within one category, she wants this woman to write whatever the hell she wants.


    Her story that resonated with me the most, was her traumatizing birth experience. She was bleeding for three days, but the doctor insisted that it was constipation or food poisoning, since it was her butt, and not her back, that was in pain. When they finally gave her an ultrasound, they discovered that she had two tumors, and that she had been in labor for those three days. While Cottom was cursing in pain on the hospital bed, the nurse warned her to watch her language, while the anesthesiologist threatened to leave, if she didn’t shut up. Giving birth is regarded as the worst pain that anyone could experience, so her agony was a perfectly normal and valid reaction, especially in her special circumstance. Cottom’s baby sadly died after its first breath, and in response, the nurse ruthlessly said, “Just so you know, there was nothing we could have done, because you did not tell us you were in labor.” She redirected the blame, as if Cottom would have presumed, any of this, after the doctor had misdiagnosed her. Based on statistics, Cottom was actually considered “lucky.” Many Black women are discriminated against by health professionals and don’t get the urgent care that they need. The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention reported that “black women are 243 percent more likely to die from pregnancy-or childbirth-related causes than are white women.”


    Cottom emphasized how social activists primarily focus on the criminalization and incarceration of Black men, while neglecting the adversities of Black women. To reiterate her concern, she quoted Malcom X.

    “The most disrespected person in America is the black woman. The most unprotected person in America is the black woman. The most neglected person in America is the black woman.”


    Cottom shared a lot of vulnerable and meaningful insights, but her deliverance made me feel confused and detached. Her writing was a little too dense for me, and I had difficulty understanding her analogies and sense of humor.

  8. How to Be an Antiracist by Ibram X. Kendi

    5/5

    Out of all of the antiracist books I read, this was the best one. I really enjoyed Ibram Kendi’s wit and sarcasm, and his writing was thought provoking, yet digestible. Books on racism are typically complex, but this one read like a story. Kendi walked the audience through his life, from graduating high school to starting a family. Each chapter began with a memory that transitioned into a teachable moment. He had the perfect balance of personal experiences and antiracist lessons.


    His fundamental point was that a racist person is “one who is supporting a racist policy through their action or inaction.” Many think that the opposite of “racist” is “not racist,” but non-Black and White passing Black people can benefit from racism from doing nothing, at all. For example, choosing not to engage in politics is a racist privilege. I for one, used to solely vote for the president and would never research local candidates or propositions because it was “too confusing.” I learned that I was being complicit, since I wasn’t actively voting against racist policies and politicians. These racist foundations weren’t negatively affecting me, so I allowed them to affect other people. So many Black people can’t vote, due to voter suppression, so I was ignorant for taking my privilege for granted.


    Kendi also stressed that rather than calling out racist people, we should spend more time and energy on striking down racist policies. He warns that pointing fingers, in spite of political correctness, diverges our attention away from the root of the problem. Instead of bitching about Karen, we should focus on the system that enables her to put Black lives in danger by merely calling the police. Why do White women feel protected by the police, while Black people feel threatened by them? The regulation of police departments, or lack thereof, is the core issue that we should be trying to reform.


    Most importantly, Kendi stands behind Intersectionality, which is the concept of how different social and political identities create multiple tiers of privilege and oppression. He recognized his privilege as a cisgendered male and emphasized how Black transgender women are the ones who face the most discrimination. He truly believes that all Black lives matter and that you can’t be antiracist if you are homophobic, transphobic, etc.


    These are just a few of Kendi’s many profound arguments. From the very first chapter, he challenged my thoughts by either introducing me to new ideas, or changing my perspective on certain matters. This is a non-negotiable required read.

  9. The Seven Husbands of Evelyn Hugo by Taylor Jenkins Reid

    5/5

    This is a fiction about a classic Hollywood movie star, named Evelyn Hugo. She is a very complex character that Taylor Jenkins Reid based off of glamorous bombshells, like Marilyn Monroe and Elizabeth Taylor. Evelyn is cunning and manipulative, but Reid narrated her in a way that still makes you mesmerized by her. Her sassy and sarcastic remarks made me laugh and smile throughout the entire book.


    As fame and money driven as this plot may be, it still touched upon many important issues, like sexism, ageism, racism and all of the other “isms” that you can think of. Evelyn is a Cuban brunette, but she dyed her hair blond and changed her last name to Hugo, knowing that this was Hollywood’s ideal lead. Marilyn Monroe, who was naturally a redhead named, Norma Jeane Mortenson, did the exact same thing. Although Hollywood has become more inclusive, White people continue to dominate the industry, so there are still a lot of barriers to break down. 


    Beyond typecasting, the book also depicted how the press notoriously tears down women. Each chapter began with a newspaper or magazine clipping that gossiped about Evelyn’s work or personal life. In one online thread, someone commented, “This is a woman who has donated MILLIONS OF DOLLARS to charities for battered women’s organizations and LGBTQ+ interests, and now she’s auctioning off gowns for cancer research and all you can talk about is her eyebrow game? Seriously?” This is exactly how real life press has been targeting female figures for decades. From Audrey Hepburn to Angelina Jolie, no matter how much charity they have done, or what prestigious awards they have achieved, their physical appearance overshadows their milestones.


    Another significant topic, in the book, was sexuality, and what it was like to be closeted in the 1960s. People were ostracized, convicted and sent to mental institutions for coming out. Many were murdered for being queer, and these cases weren't taken seriously, at all. If anything, the police would take part in the crime, or help cover it up. Evelyn raised a valuable point when she acknowledged that she was taught to like men. Many people never explore to identify whether they are gay, straight, bisexual, etc. In most cases, they are brainwashed that straight is the “norm,” and so they just run with it.


    This was an incredibly suspenseful book that I was excited to pick up at the end of each day. Reid kept dropping one juicy, twisted secret after the other, so it made me want to keep turning the pages. The story had ongoing plot twists that really shock you, especially at the end. Reid also has quite a broad vocabulary, so she introduced me to many new words. I was constantly looking up and jotting down definitions. Overall, I learned a total of 23 words, including egregious, lascivious and extemporaneous. This was a very fashion forward and female empowering read, and it was, hands down, the most entertaining one of them all.

  10. Home Body by Rupi Kaur

    3/5

    Out of all of Rupi Kaur’s books, this one felt like her most vulnerable one. She relieves a lot of raw emotions and recounts many graphic traumatic experiences, like rape and grooming. She opens up about her depression and how fame and success has affected her. As evident in all of her work, she continues to be a driving force of intersectional female empowerment, mentally, sexually and emotionally. 


    This was her shortest book yet, but she included a lot more lengthy poems that were several paragraphs long. As always, she parts her poems into different phases, and these were titled “mind,” “heart,” “rest” and “awake.” I couldn’t grasp the overall theme from each one, since they all seemed to muddle together. The framework and cohesion of both, Milk and Honey and The Sun and Her Flowers, were much stronger. Kaur was expressing such painful emotions, yet the writing was very flat. This book didn’t make me think and feel as much as the last two did.

  11. Uncomfortable Conversations with a Black Man by Emmanuel Acho

    3/5

    I think this is a good book for someone who is just starting to learn about race and racism. Emmanuel Acho covered a lot of information, like White privilege and allyship, that other Black authors have written about in much greater depth. The word, “conversations,” is in the title, so I think his intent was to make the book read like a casual conversation. I personally didn’t like this loose style of writing, and many of his analogies seemed really corny to me. This is a short and straightforward read, but is still quite resourceful.

    At the end, he provided a long list of books, movies, organizations and all other sorts of Black work to support. I find this so important because becoming an ally can seem overwhelming, and many people may not know where to start. Some may never start, at all, for this very reason. That’s a lame excuse in my opinion, but I think it’s most effective to not only educate people on racism, but to also follow up with call-to-acton resources to help guide them. To non-Black people, don’t just share things out of anger and sorrow. Be like Acho and actually highlight actions that people can do in reaction to that frustration, like donating money or signing petitions.

    Although I didn’t get much out of this book, I highly recommend subscribing to Acho’s YouTube channel. I think he’s much more infectious on camera, and his videos pose a lot of critical questions regarding race. It’s a really solid baseline for the difficult, yet mindful conversations we should be having with the people in our lives.

  12. Life-Changing Foods by Anthony William

    2/5

    Take everything Anthony William says with a grain of salt. He doesn’t do any research, he isn’t professionally trained and he doesn’t have a doctorate. He is a self-proclaimed medical medium, who is supposedly guided by a higher power he calls, “Spirit.” When he was four years old, he heard a voice warning him that his grandma had lung cancer, before anyone else was aware. After she got tested, the doctor confirmed the diagnosis. Since then, he has allegedly been able to detect people’s illnesses, along with which foods can cure them. According to William, Spirit gives him verbal body scans, detailing everything, from people’s blood clots to tumors.


    His book is entirely comprised of food “facts,” but has absolutely no sources. Just as Spirit informs William of people’s health, it apparently fed him all of the knowledge in this book, as well. He alphabetically listed 50 healthy foods, from apples to wild blueberries. He divided them into four categories he calls, “The Holy Four” (fruits, vegetables, herbs and spices, and wild foods). He recorded all of the conditions and symptoms that they help counteract, followed by a nutritious recipe for each one. A lot of his drinks, snacks and meals were actually simple and tasty looking, so I do want to give them a try. Aside from his enticing recipes, many of his wild claims sound like a big stretch. Here are three that me laugh.

    + If you grow your food, your plants will know exactly what you need and how to cater to you. For example, if you have cancer, your plants will be able to sense it and know what nutrients to feed you, in order to fight it. William believes that there are miracles in planting and maintaining your own food.

    + Birth control is a cause in women’s low infertility rates, since it trains their bodies not to conceive. Therefore, when they do decide to have a baby, their chances of getting pregnant are less likely.

    + Men should refrain from ejaculation that isn’t meant for procreation because it will lower their sperm productivity. Frequent ejaculations will make sperm more “docile, listless, and undernourished, both from being overused and because zinc reserves are lost with each emission.”

    I clearly didn’t do my research before buying this book. I had no familiarity about the author and his backstory. I just saw Jenn Im post his book in her recommended reading and found it valuable how he breaks down the benefits of each fruit and vegetable. While reading the conditions and symptoms that each food prevents, I saw certain ones repeated within the same paragraph on multiple occasions. It was as if no one proofread the damn book. I also didn’t like how William ended the book on such a religious note. He preached that there are angels helping us cultivate nutritional foods, and that we can call upon them to help disarm the chemically treated ones. When it comes to nutrition and health studies, I look to science, not faith. Despite all of this, William still has a peculiarly large cult following, including celebrities, like Miranda Kerr, Gwyneth Paltrow and the Kardashians. 

    Please do yourself a favor, and don’t waste your time on his antics.

  13. The Gay Agenda by Ashley Molesso and Chess Needham

    5/5

    Ashley Molesso and Chess Needham are a queer and trans power couple that are known for their bold and eccentric stationary company, Ash + Chess. They recently released this book in 2020, and it’s a required read, full of vital information that should be taught in every school. It chronologically covered historical events and figures throughout the LGBTQ+ movement, from 600 BCE to present. Unlike our school textbooks, it didn't Whitewash history. Instead, it paid homage to people from all ethnic backgrounds, who helped pave the way for the LGBTQ+ community. Molesso and Needham also provided a helpful “Queer Dictionary,” at the end, that listed common queer terminologies, along with all of the different gender identities. 

    90% of the content in this book was unfortunately new to me. Gender and sexuality are complex topics that aren’t as simple as, male vs. female and gay vs. straight. Queer people make up such a big portion of our society, so history and sex education courses should be more inclusive. People shouldn’t have to go out of their way, or wait until college to obtain this knowledge.

    This was a very unique textbook that wasn’t just made up of large chunks of text. Each passage was followed by Molesso and Needham’s whimsical illustrations. The only concern I have is that the font was small, quirky and colorful, so this may be extremely challenging for someone with ADHD or dyslexia to read. 

STRUT

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I’m not kidding when I say 80% of my closet is thrifted. Out of these nine shoes, seven of them were secondhand. If I asked you which ones they were, would you be able to guess? I’ve seen everything, from Nike Air Forces at Goodwill to Christian Louboutins at Salvation Army, so nothing is out of reach. Here are some tips and tricks I’ve learned with bargaining for shoes over the years.

  1. DR. MARTENS BOOTS

    Wasteland

    $18

    BUY / SELL / TRADE ON HAIGHT-ASHBURY

    Before the age of Poshmark, I would frequently bus or ferry to San Francisco, in hopes of selling or trading clothes that I no longer wanted. I would lug several heavy ass bags, with me, and would sometimes only sell 5 things. Even with 5 things, you can accumulate a lot of cash or store credit if they are trendy or name brand items. Haight-Ashbury has A LOT of thrift stores, but I always had the same sequence of going from Wasteland to Buffalo Exchange to Crossroads Trading. The reason why I like Wasteland, so much, is because they only offer cash, and they always select lifestyle and high-end brands. Since they have expensive taste, they give you more money’s worth for your clothes. I always shop around before collecting my cash and, on this day, I ended up using it all on these Docs. I forget exactly how much I earned or how much the boots cost, but I only paid around $18. I do remember being shook by how low the price tag was, so it was a major steal regardless.

  2. STEVE MADDEN BOOTIES

    Poshmark

    $22

    THRIFTING ON POSHMARK

    Whenever I want something with a unique detail, I always browse through Poshmark first. To show you how refined the app can be, I will walk you through exactly how I narrowed down my search. For these booties, I started by entering the distinct keywords, “clear heels.” Then I chose the “Women’s” category and filtered down the subcategories from “Shoes” to “Ankle Boots & Booties.” I selected my shoe sizes and the color black, and as usual, I sorted the price from low to high. As I was scrolling, I tried to “like” several listings, so that I could weigh my options at the end. This makes it so much easier to compare the varying styles and prices.

  3. ALDO BOOTIES

    ALDO

    $54

    THE NEW NEW | IN-STORE SHOPPING

    These were the knock-offs I settled for because I couldn’t bring myself to buy the Jeffrey Campbell booties I actually wanted. I think the Campbells were selling for $200-300, and when they sold out, I instantly regretted not taking my chances. Over a year later, I saw these similar booties at ALDO. The belt buckles reminded me of the Campbells, and I also loved the gold plating on the heels. I debated on buying them, at first, since I thought the gold studs would be overkill. The other part that turned me off was the price. It’s silly to think that I considered buying premium booties, but still find $54 questionable. I had never shopped at ALDO before, so I was skeptical with their quality. 

    Once I purchased the shoes, I never second-guessed anything again. They are one of the most comfortable pairs I own, and I could walk and dance in them for days. They also are, in fact, extremely well-made. After seven years, they haven’t lost a single stud or endured any serious damages.

  4. CHINESE LAUNDRY BOOTIES

    Poshmark

    $0

    TRADING ON POSHMARK

    Another great thing about Postmark is that you can trade clothes with other sellers. All you have to do is pay for shipping. I scored real big with this transaction and traded my old Birkenstocks for these booties, a makeup brush, and two sweaters. There are many sellers who don’t do trades, but it never hurts to ask if you see a listing that you’re interested in. Whenever I receive a “like” from someone on my listings, I always browse their closet to see if there’s anything I’d like to trade them for.

  5. CHARLES DAVID HEELS

    Poshmark

    $14.95

    PRICE DROPS ON POSHMARK

    Whenever you “like” a listing on Poshmark, you will always be notified when the seller drops their price. I kept seeing these heels reduce over time, so once they reached $20, I bought them. I also used credit from my own sales, so they ended up being cheaper than I expected.

  6. MOSSIMO FLATS

    Goodwill

    $8.99

    PRICE CATEGORIES AT GOODWILL

    Most of the Goodwills I shop at, now have a set price for all of their shoes. Spending under $10 on shoes is a bargain, as is, but it’s even better when they are still brand new. There have been many times where I’ve snagged brand new shoes, at Goodwill, and this happened to be one of those special days.

  7. MRKT HEELS

    hand-me-down

    $0

    YOUR FRIEND’S / FAMILY’S CLOSET

    In college, I walked into my dorm room, one day, spotting these heels in the trash can. My roommate was tossing them, so I immediately claimed them as my own. I have inherited so many hand-me-downs, from friends and family, throughout my life. Whenever my friends are cleaning out their closets, I always ask for first dibs, before everything is donated. I had the best of luck in college, since all of my friends had the urge to downsize before moving back home.

  8. & OTHER STORIES SANDALS

    & Other Stories

    $57.60

    THE NEW NEW | ONLINE SHOPPING

    I had been eyeing these sandals, for months, but again, I kept contemplating on how expensive they were. Several months later, I finally made the purchase, but the shoes were slightly too big. The beautiful thing about lifestyle brands is that they tend to have free shipping and returns. Since their price points are much higher, they can afford to do this. For some weird reason, & Other Stories doesn’t have an exchange policy for online orders, so I had to ship back the shoes and buy a new pair. As I was waiting for my refund to transfer, I noticed that the price had slashed from $129 to $64. This was all a matter of perfect timing. To top it all off, I used an additional 10% discount code. Always take advantage of those email subscriptions. You can simply unsubscribe after you access the deal.

  9.  UNISA MULES

    Goodwill

    $7

    “COLOR OF THE WEEK” AT GOODWILL

    I found these mules in the more expensive shoe section of Goodwill. This particular store had a separate assortment that was curated by style and brand. I think it was no more than $15, but in terms of Goodwill, I consider anything over $10 steep. My only exceptions are furniture, luxury jewelry, or collective items. This location was also in an affluent neighborhood, so it was one bougie ass Goodwill. The price made me hesitate, but I couldn’t resist how cute and comfy the shoes were. Besides, I didn’t own anything else like them. When the cashier rung them up, I was pleased to hear that they were 50% off. Goodwill always color-coats their price tags, and, every week, they choose a different color to discount. These shoes had a white sticker, instead of a colored tag, so I just assumed they were excluded from Color of the Week. Now I know better.

xx

Dana

RIHANNA RED

BEFORE

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Rihanna's Loud album was the inspiration behind my hair. On the cover, she had this exact same fiery red. She's one of my top fashion icons and I look to her for many hair and wardrobe ideas. I just love how unapologetic and unpredictable she is. Loud was released in 2010, so it took me almost a decade to do this. 

The Internet simply confused me, and I couldn’t find a general consensus on whether I had to my bleach my hair or not. Black hair is always tricky to work with, since extreme colors usually require bleach. Some said they had to start with bleach, while others said they achieved the color without it. Since I couldn’t find the answer, myself, I emailed Lan, who dyed my hair last year. She ironically did the same shade several months ago and bleach was in fact, the answer.

Last year, she dyed my entire hair blonde, but it had grown down to my ears. I’m so glad that I reached out to her because I would have grown it out, otherwise. Before moving onto another color, I wanted to appreciate the blonde for as long as possible. Now that I knew it would save so much time and money, I booked an appointment, immediately.

AFTER

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This session took a total of 5 hours, which is half the amount of time it took to go blonde. Lan began by bleaching my hair and leaving it in for 2.5 hours. She had me sit under a heating lamp to help speed up the process. The bottom portion of my hair was already blonde, so the color was really uneven after being bleached. The top half was yellow, while the bottom half was nearly platinum. I was worried that this would also make the red uneven, but I didn’t see any patchiness, at all.

After washing and blowdrying my hair, Lan applied the red dye, which made my scalp extremely tingly. It was really uncomfortable, at first, but the feeling disappeared after 15 minutes. She sat me under the lamp for another 30 minutes, and then shampooed and conditioned my hair, again. She left my roots unbleached and dyed it burgundy, so that it will look more natural once it grows. For the final touch, she sprayed my hair with Ionic Color Lock to help retain the color. 

The red turned out exactly as I envisioned, and I walked out of the salon feeling like a completely different person. It’s the boldest color I've ever done, so I definitely turn heads and stand out everywhere where I go. Not only is it a kickass color, but it’s also so forgiving and low-maintenance. Unlike shades of blonde and pastel, I only have to use red shampoo, once a week, to maintain its vibrancy. This is the best color experiment I’ve had yet, and I can’t wait to come back to see what else Lan can do.

+ Tube Top | Wild Fable (Poshmark)

+ Necklace | Etsy

+ Lipstick | MAC’s Ruby Woo

xx

Dana

BIRTHDAY HAUL

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1. Teakwood + Tobacco Soy Candle

Urban Outfitters

$20

On my birthday week, my friend Roberto came to my doorstep with the most beautifully wrapped present. It came in a black translucent box with black ribbon and black tissue paper. I was floored by the gift wrapping, alone, since he put so much thought and effort into reflecting my style. Inside was this soy candle that smelled amazing. I’m extremely picky with candles, so I was really impressed that he was able to get the scent on point. I typically strive for musky and natural smells, like pinewood and cedar, so teakwood and tobacco is a similar combination. As much as I liked the scent, once I lit the candle, I could barely smell a thing. It was pretty anticlimactic, since it’s so rare for me to find one that I actually like. I think this would be perfect for an intimate space, like a desk or bathroom. If you want it to fill up a large area, like a bedroom or living room, then you would need a cluster of 2 or 3. This taught me that you can never truly tell what a candle smells like, until you set it.

2. Ruby Woo Lipstick

MAC

$15.30

I am a very loyal MAC consumer when it comes to lipstick. My friend, Angela, brainwashed me with MAC Cosmetics in middle school, so I haven’t bought any other lipstick since. I love their matte selections, since they have so many rich and bold colors. Their lipstick also doesn’t smudge and lasts all day long. I only have to reapply it once, if at all, throughout the day. Their packaging is my other favorite part, since the lipstick comes in sleek black tubes. I have accumulated many MAC lipsticks, but I’ve never owned one of their classic red ones. I will be dying my hair bright red, next month, so I wanted to get a shade that will match.

3. TOWEL SET

Target

$41.24

You know you’re getting “old” when you ask for towels for your birthday. My house has a plethora of towels, but 95% of them are plain white ones. The only set that actually belongs to me is a black and grey tribal printed one. I bought it for college and have been using it for over 6 years. After interchanging between this and my mom’s old white towels, I thought it was time to switch it up and add another color. This blush set includes 2 washcloths, 2 hand towels, and 2 bath towels. It’s always a good feeling when you get something that’s not only useful, but will last for years to come.

4. SNORLAX PLUSH

Amazon

$19.99

I’ve been wanting a Snorlax plush for so, so long. I just never bought one because I struggled with my “want vs. need.” My friend, Emily, actually surprised me with this Snorlax on my birthday. It sparked me with so much joy, so I guess I needed it, after all. For 3 nights in a row, I snuggled with it, like a 5-year-old, and every time I look at it, it makes me happy. I didn’t think I was a stuffed animal person, but now I want an Umbreon, Totoro and Puppycat to complete my collection.

5. BOTTLE OPENER

Amazon

$12.99

I hardly drink beer, but a bottle opener is such an essential kitchen tool. If you ever have people over, there’s always bound to be someone asking for it. I stumbled upon this beaut on Pinterest and knew that I had to have it. I mean, cat-shaped AND gold? This bottle opener was basically made for me. My best friend, Ann, got it for my birthday, which was the perfect timing. I used it immediately to open a bottle of rose at my party.

xx

Dana

FEBRUARY THRIFT HAUL

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1. TREND BASICS SNEAKERS

Eco Thrift

$4.49

Several months ago, I had to toss out a similar pair of shoes because they were tearing apart. It was a shame, since the white was so easy to coordinate with. When I went to Eco Thrift, I saw several of this same style, but by different brands. I chose this pair, since they looked brand new, and I wear them almost every week, now.

2. NIKE SPORTS BRA

Poshmark

$7

I actually owned this exact same bra in a small, but I sold it because it was too tight. Even though I’m an A-cup in regular bras, I’ve learned that with sports bras, I have to size up. Otherwise, it’s just straight-up painful. The beauty of Poshmark is that I was able to sell my old one and buy a new one at a lower price. If you play your cards right, on Poshmark, you can save so much money.

3. GOLD BASKETS

H&M

$15.75

I’ve been wanting to rearrange my bedroom for so long, but I’ve put it off for over a year. I have this old brown cabinet that I want to sell, but it stored so much of my papers and supplies. My temporary solution is to use small baskets to clear out the drawers. I browsed on Pinterest and on many home goods websites. I even went to Target and Marshalls, but the only look I liked was this metallic one. Spending over $30 on two baskets sounds ridiculous, but this price was surprisingly the norm. I’ve always had a thing for gold-wired baskets, and this one can fit A LOT of crap.

4. MORAL FIBER CARDIGAN

Goodwill

$9.99

Every girl needs a basic cardigan that goes with everything, and I finally found mine. The charcoal matches with any color, and the material is so soft and comfortable. It has that special hand-feel that would make people want to cuddle with you.

5. NOBLE U DRESS

Eco Thrift

$6.57

This burnt orange dress will be perfect for the fall, especially with some knee-high boots. It gives a lot of coverage, but is very form-fitting. The tight silhouette really accentuates the curves and toosh. There’s also a caged cutout that’s supposed to be worn in front, but it looks just as good in the back, as well.

6. METHOD BODY WASH

Target

$6.29

This body wash smells so, so good. It’s a blend of coconut, rice milk, and shea butter, and it feels so nourishing against my skin. One small dab goes a long way, so I think this large bottle will last a year, if not more. Method is known for its natural and cruelty-free cleaning supplies, like dish soap and detergent. It only just begun producing body washes, and for all the eco-friendly qualities that its products have, the prices are extremely reasonable.

7. FOREVER 21 TRENCH COAT

Goodwill

$6.50

For a Forever 21 duster, this fabric feels really smooth and luxurious. It’s almost like a baby version of suede. Although this is a piece of outerwear, it’s very lightweight and has room for very thick layers. Because it’s so thin, it will be a nice transition piece for spring, since the weather will be less chilly, but still slightly rainy and windy.

8. WILD FABLE TUBE TOP

Poshmark

$5

As a fashion graduate, I’m always coming up with new outfit in my head. Last year, I thrifted a mesh jersey, on Poshmark, and thought that it would pair best with a black tube top. Tube tops are such classic staple pieces, but I’ve never owned a simple solid one, like this. This is a versatile item that can be turned into so many different looks.

9. SKORT

Eco Thrift

$3.19

The last time I owned a skort was probably in elementary school. I’d choose a skort over a skirt, any day, but it’s unfortunately a rare find. Based on the stitching and lack of labels, this one was definitely homemade. Its vibrant shade of red is what caught my eye, and this alone, will make it a really fun piece to style.

10. NIKE AIR FORCE 1

Goodwill

$9.99

These kicks were released in 2016, so the previous owner certainly put good wear into them. I was hesitant to buy them, at first, since the white had faded to beige. Even then, there are no prominent stains. Unless you held the shoes up to your face, you wouldn’t be able to tell that they are 3-years-old. These sneakers have the magic of making sweatpants look good, so I’m looking forward to wearing them on my lazy days.

11. FOREVER 21 BIKINI TOP

Poshmark

$9

I was contemplating on buying this bikini for Indonesia, last summer, but I regrettably chose not to. It quickly sold out, within a week, so I’ve been trying to find it on Poshmark, since. I finally saw a listing, this month, but the seller had a different sized top and bottom. I only bought the top, and I’m really loving its fit and color combination. Normally I don’t like color, but I’ve always had a soft spot for blush and mauve. Fingers crossed that I can somehow find the matching bottoms to this set.

xx

Dana

SEASON'S GREETINGS

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Growing up in an Asian American household, we never did Christmas cards. My dad always carried a camera, taking tons of pictures of us, but we never had a professional family portrait. This is a concept that my parents, along with many other Asian immigrants, aren't used to. Hiring a photographer and personalizing cards, every year, is a very excessive and obscure idea. 

It actually wasn’t until my parents immigrated here, that they started celebrating Christmas. Since it’s such a big holiday, in America, my mom wanted my brother and I to feel accustomed to the culture. Although my mom was Buddhist, she did this to bring happiness and inclusion to our family. It has been my favorite holiday, for as long as I can remember, and I look forward to it every year.

This is my first time doing Christmas cards, and I got to share this moment with Basic Invite. My boyfriend and I happened to meet during the holiday season, so this is the perfect way to cherish that memory. Basic Invite has over 500 holiday cards, so I was overwhelmed by the many choices. I gravitated towards the foil finishes, which is available in gold, silver and rose gold. Aside from foil, the main customizations they offer are over 40 envelope colors and over 180 graphic colors. Once you choose the card you want, you can edit the fonts and colors, in any way.

Other useful services they have are custom samples and an address capturing system. Before placing a large order, you can request a sample to see what the final design looks like. To make collecting names and addresses easier, you will be given a link that can be shared on any social platform. Your loved ones can fill out their information, if they wish, and the best part is that address printing is free for all Christmas orders.

Instead of using their customized shipping method, I chose to bulk order a small batch to my house. Even though the estimated delivery was three weeks, I received my order within ten days. The cards came professionally packaged in a tiny stuffed box. It even included a complimentary paper ornament with our photograph. The cards were beautiful, but the color and lighting of the pictures were off. It was slightly darker than what I submitted, but I decided to keep them, anyways. I didn’t want to wait another two weeks for a reprint, but the option is there, if you aren’t satisfied with the quality. Basic Invite has a “Love It Guarantee,” where they will issue a full refund or reprint the cards to meet your standards.

I’m always open to new experiences, so I wanted to give Christmas cards a try. Would I do it again? Meh, maybe every five years, or so. As festive and aesthetically pleasing as it is, I don’t see the point in having them, unless I’ve reached a new milestone. Once I get married or have kids, I’d definitely to do this again, but for now, I’ll lay low.

Although I’ve never understood holiday cards, this won’t tarnish my love for stationary. Basic Invite covers all sorts of events and announcements, like births, birthdays and weddings. Creating holiday cards might not be my thing, but that doesn’t mean I don’t enjoy receiving and collecting them. If you’re a Christmas fanatic, who lives for these traditions, then I highly recommend Basic Invite. The customer service is extremely accommodating, the process is user-friendly and the designs are endless. The website walks you through every corner of the card, making sure that it’s everything you want.

xx

Dana

NOVEMBER THRIFT HAUL

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1. FOREVER 21 JUMPSUIT

Goodwill

$7.99

The short person struggle of finding a jumpsuit is too real. When I grabbed this from the rack, I anticipated disappointment, but it was surprisingly a perfect fit. According to my boyfriend, vertical stripes also make people appear taller. Whoever owned these, must’ve hemmed the legs because it wasn’t cropped online and there’s no way 5’2” is a standard height. This jumpsuit hugs all of the right places and the bare criss-crossed back is very flattering. It even has pockets, which I always appreciate. 

2. TURTLENECK

Poshmark

$7

It’s about time that I own a turtleneck, like this. I’ve been wanting a black mesh one for so long, but had no luck thrifting it, until now. Even though it’s thin and sheer, I’d still wear it on a winter night out. It can be layered, both over and underneath, with undershirts and outerwear. There’re also so many textures that can glam it up, like fur, leather, and metalware. Black can essentially go with anything, so the options are limitless. 

3. ROC RETINOL COREXXION EYE CREAM

Amazon

$15.09

I’m finally popping my eye cream cherry at 24. My mom would always use it and most of my friends swear by it. I was reluctant to add eye cream to my beauty routine, since it’s already expensive, as is. I’ve always had this terrible habit of rubbing my eyes and realized that my crows feet were becoming more prominent. This triggered me into getting eye cream and taking extra care of my skin. Before, I would always forget to moisturize my under eyes, since they’re such awkward and delicate areas. They used to be so dry and crusty, but now they look much brighter and healthier. I actually saw an immediate change and couldn’t stop stroking my under eyes, due to how smooth they’ve gotten.

4. KICKEE PANTS PAJAMA SET

Two Birdees

$41 (wholesale)

If you haven’t tried bamboo clothing, then you’re really missing out, especially if you have kids. I can’t stress, enough, how buttery soft and comfortable this material is. It melts on your skin and cools you down, which is a godsend for babies. My company carries, Kickee Pants, a bamboo clothing brand, that has a big cult following. They’re best known for baby and kids’ pajamas, but also produce a small selection of adult clothes. Because of their eco-friendly manufacturing process, the prices are much steeper. For many moms, the benefits outweigh the costs, since bamboo is so soothing for sensitive skin. Before working at Two Birdees, I was completely unaware of this fiber, but now I want it in every product category, possible. If only adult-sized bamboo pillowcases and bedsheets existed, I’d totally splurge. Everyone wants to feel the utmost comfort, at home, so why not invest in high quality sleepwear? Aside from underwear, these are probably the most religiously worn garments in our closet.

5. ZARA SKIRT

Goodwill

$4.99

This isn’t a style I would typically gear towards, but I thought it would be useful for Halloween, one year. Bright, poofy and glittery are the main ingredients for a fairy or princess costume. It will probably come in good use for other holidays and special occasions, as well. This is a dressy skirt that can elevate any look and match with any color. 

6. WTF PLANNER

Hadron Epoch

$22.50

It’s November, which means the year is almost finished, along with my planner. I’ve always preferred writing down dates and plans, instead of typing them onto my phone or computer. This way, I retain the information better. It’s also very satisfying when I fill up every page and get a fresh start at the beginning of each year. Similar to the idea of a journal, I love being able to look back on old memories and accomplishments. For next year, I chose a simple grey planner that looks like a classic library book. It has everything I need and then some. What I look for, in a planner, are both monthly and weekly sections. I use the monthly calendar for main events and special occasions, and the weekly pages are for my daily schedule. The special thing about this planner is that it has a financial planning organizer. I’ve been using Google Sheets for budgeting, so it’ll be convenient to have one designated place for all record keeping. The cutest perks, of all, are the checklists for “Places to Go” and “Movies & TV Shows to Watch.” This must be every Type A’s dream.

7. GOJANE JERSEY

Poshmark

$5

I must admit, I bought this jersey just so I could wear it to Disneyland, one day. Being that it’s located in Los Angeles, I thought it would be fitting to wear this, there. I even own black mouse ears to go with it. The mesh material is incredibly breathable, which will be beneficial against LA’s heat. With a black tube top and denim shorts, I’ll be ready to walk in the sun, all day.

8. GAP VEST

Goodwill

$3.99

I’m always surprised when I thrift sportswear, in mint condition, especially if it’s white. This crisp and clean vest, I found, is entirely spotless. It has mesh, low-cut armholes that has just the right amount of “peek-a-boo.” My black Nike sports bra, in contrast with this stark white vest, would create the ideal sporty look. It’s sleek, modern and monochrome.

9. LOU & GREY T-SHIRT DRESS

Goodwill

$6.99

The minimal stripes are what caught my eye, but the touch of the fabric is what sold me. Lou & Grey is a women’s clothing brand that prides itself on softness. Their “soft” is quite different from Kickee Pants “soft,” though. Kickee Pants is made entirely from bamboo, which has a smooth and cool texture. The Lou & Grey dress I bought is a rayon and spandex blend, which feels heavier, yet cozier than bamboo. It’s actually one size too big, for me, so I plan on wearing it as a nightdress.

10. KICKEE PANTS BOXERS

Two Birdees

$10 (wholesale)

Men’s boxers are the best alternative for pajama shorts. Not only do I like boxer prints and colors more, but the prices are also significantly lower. I don’t normally like colorful products, but I couldn’t resist this beautiful koinobori print, by Kickee Pants. The design is like a work of art, and the color palette gives me a retro 60s vibe. My boss actually gave me a KP pajama set, a year ago, and it instantly became my favorite. I always find myself reaching for those pajama shorts, first. As I mentioned before, nothing can compete with the comfort of bamboo fabric. I can only imagine these boxers being just as loose and weightless, if not more, because of its baggy silhouette.

xx

Dana

JUNE HAUL

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1. CALVIN KLEIN BRA

Poshmark

$9

This basic bra was selling for $28, but I luckily found it, on Poshmark, for a third of that price. I never see this black on black version and was very excited when I saw it. I’m used to seeing the ones, with white elastic bands, circulating the internet. With my wardrobe, the more black, the better, so this was an easy selection. Although it’s a bralette, this won’t stop be from wearing it out, with a sheer top or set of overalls.

 

2. LAVENDER VIDA LOCA SOAP

LUSH

$7.95

I got this soap bar as a free sample with my purchase. For the past month, I have been taking a break from body wash, to use it. I have had LUSH samples, before, but not in this generous amount. The employees cut me a chunk of soap that has lasted me, weeks. I was never a big lavender lover, but this has a very settle and soothing scent. It may not have a creamy, hydrating formula, but it gets the job done. Most organic, hand-made products lack that nourishing lather that many of us are accustomed to. This is a likely compromise if you want something healthier for the environment and your skin.

 

3. REBELS REFINERY LIP BALM SET

Target

$9.99

Having dry lips is such an irritating feeling, so I can not leave the house without chapstick. I was running low on lip balm, and I wanted to try this skull-shaped one I saw on Facebook. Its packaging really reflects my style, since I am obsessed with skulls and the color, black. I got the three-pack, which comes with a mint, vanilla, and passion fruit flavor. They all smell good, but passion fruit was, by far, the most unique and refreshing scent. This set will probably last an entire year, and I can even use it as home decor, once the lip balm runs out.

 

4. AERIE ONE-PIECE SWIMSUIT

Poshmark

$18

I have been looking for a classic black bodysuit for so long. There are many different variations, so it was hard for me to find this exact silhouette, at an affordable price. This is actually a bathing suit, but I will mainly be wearing it as a bodysuit. It has a deep, low-cut back, along with plunged armholes that reveal a little side boob. This piece is very versatile, and I can’t wait to pair it with different styles, like maxi skirts or high-waisted denim shorts.

 

5. R+CO DRY SHAMPOO

Neiman Marcus

$17 (Travel Size)

Now that I'm blond, I wash my hair every two days, instead of every other day. The bleach has dried it up, which makes the shampooing and brushing process really tedious. The only time I ever tried dry shampoo was when I was in middle or high school. Not only did I use a cheap Walmart brand, but I did not apply it properly, either. This defeated its purpose and made my hair even greasier than before. I heard about R+Co’s dry shampoo from my favorite YouTuber, Jenn Im. She raved about how it absorbs oil really well and does not leave any white powdery casts. This review, along with the bottle’s beautiful packaging, convinced me to give dry shampoo a second chance. So far, I have used it, once, on day two hair. The formula removed any sign of oiliness and kept my scalp itch-free. Normally, my head gets really itchy, at this point, but the spray prevented any usual discomfort and irritation.

 

6. ENZO ANGIOLINI PLATFORMS

Goodwill

$8.99

I like Doc Marten’s infamous platforms, but certainly not its price point. I have always wanted shoes that resemble Creepers, so this cheap, toned down pair will do. They add extra height with zero ounces of pain and match nearly any outfit.

 

7. MARBLE-PRINT BEACH TOWEL

Society6

$29.24

I have had the same beach towel for six years, so it was time for an upgrade. Spending $30 on a towel may sound crazy, but I put that shit into good use. Summer calls for more poolsides, beaches, and traveling. I saw this while Googling “beach towel graphics,” for work, and was in awe. I love its color palette, marble textures, and geometric shapes. I have always had a radar on Society6, but was overwhelmed by its endless pages of graphics. The website has a plethora of unique prints by independent artists. Anyone can create an account and upload their work. Their designs can then be printed onto anything, from mugs and posters to bedding and cell phone covers. This is a great way to discover new art and to support talented people.

 

8. MOSSIMO LACE-UP FLATS

Goodwill

$8.99

I had a black pair of flats, just like these, but they were entirely ruined by sand and water. My boyfriend has this habit of taking me places at short notice. This leaves me poorly dressed for the occasion, and for this particular incident, he had us rock climbing along the beach. We live a bridge apart from each other, so if he doesn’t tell me what we’re doing over the weekend, I can’t just go home and grab different clothes. Suede lace-up flats are definitely not ideal for the beach, but at least I found a brown version, at Goodwill. This saved me from spending another $30 on the original GAP ones.

 

9. BUNNY EYESHADE

Miniso

gift

My boss went on a business trip to Shanghai and brought me back this soft, fuzzy eye mask. This has been on my shopping list, for a while, but all of the ones I liked were unavailable. I normally use these when I’m waken up by early lawnmowers or garbage trucks, throughout the week. Once I wake up during daylight, even at 6 or 7am, I have trouble falling back asleep. I’m super sensitive to light and sound, and the blinds in my bedroom are also broken. This mask has saved me a lot of sleep, and it will be very useful for traveling, as well.

 

10. THERMOFLASK WATER BOTTLE

Cosco

$24.99 (2-Pack)

For two years I had been using a large Voss bottle as my refillable water bottle. It worked, but the glass was very clunky and fragile. My brother bought us these 40 oz hydro flasks, since Cosco was selling two for $24.99. I drink a lot of water and would drink one to two refills of the Voss container, a day. My new flask is nearly double its size, so this encourages me to drink even more water than usual. I have never owned a stainless steal bottle, so it’s also been a luxury having long lasting cold water.

xx

Dana

 

FADED

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Going from black to blond hair is not easy. Believe me, I have had my share of fuck-ups. On both attempts of going lavender, my hair turned blue because it was not platinum enough. I love experimenting with color, but before going for round three of pastels, I wanted to perfect blond, first. It took me two sessions to achieve this shade, but there are still touch-ups that need to be done. This is my transition from brunette to blond, along with what hair routine works for me.

 

 

PHASE I

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Last summer, I dyed my hair dark brown and continued lightening it, using Sun-In hairspray. This is what it looked like hours before my first appointment.

 

 

PHASE II

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The first session took 5.5 hours, and three were dedicated to bleaching. After the foil started heating up, my stylist shampooed my hair with No Yellow Fanola. This turned the brassy color into a dirty, ash blond. She then applied toner to reduce any unevenness. There was a thirty minute wait, followed by a second set of shampoo and conditioning. She left my roots unbleached, since I wanted them to gradually blend to blond. This will save me from needing any touch ups, once they grow.

 

I did like the finished look, but it had zero resemblance to the picture I sent. Instead of an overall blond, I had a series of highlights. I wanted to trust my stylist’s judgement, and I knew that first sessions were never flawless. Even though I prefer having a grey tone over a golden one, I still expected the blond to be more prominent. The color was also uneven, but that’s typically the case in the beginning.

 

 

PHASE III

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Three months later, I finally booked my second appointment. I wanted to get this done much earlier, but my schedule didn’t line up with my stylist’s. She repeated the same exact steps, but this time it took 4.5 hours. I’m very satisfied with the result, but my roots still need to be toned. Right now, the top portion is brassy, but a few washes with purple shampoo should fix this. The most important thing is that my hair isn’t dead and still looks healthy.

 

 

GOING BLOND // DO'S AND DON'TS

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RESEARCH

Choosing the right stylist is critical, especially with Asian hair. I don’t recommend going to a white salon because the employees are probably not as familiar with dying black hair. Ours is much trickier to work with than blonds’ and brunettes’. I was referred to, Lan, by my friend, Angela. Her pricing is more affordable than other colorists’, who also specialize in Asian hair. In the Bay Area, there are many options in San Jose, but most of those stylists charge over $400 for one session. This is more than what I paid for both of mine, combined. I went to Precision 8, in San Anselmo, which is in Marin County. If you schedule an appointment, here, be sure to contact Lan, for coloring, since that’s her expertise.

 

PATIENCE

In the past, I found ways to squeeze a long and expensive process into one to two sessions. Consequently, I chose damaged hair over a damaged wallet. When going blond, you must accept the fact that it can’t happen in one day. For the first few weeks you will have to endure orange or yellow brassiness. Take this time to moisturize and condition your hair before bleaching it, again. The first time I bleached mine, I tried going lavender in one sitting. Not only was this unhealthy, but it was impossible, to begin with. After baking my hair for over ten hours, it turned extremely slimy, and I lost a lot of strands, that day. Those that remained, completely fried up. This is what happens if you rush the many stages, so don’t make the same mistake I did.

 

CONDITION

I’m sure there are fancy conditioners designed for dyed hair, but my priority is just to condition. I don’t think it matters which brand you buy, as long as you use it after every wash. When I have lightened hair, I apply a little more, and I let it stay longer than usual. The bleach will dry up your hair, so it’s essential to nourish it, as much as possible.

 

NO YELLOW FANOLA

In order to avoid brassy hair, I use No Yellow Fanola shampoo, just like my stylist did. Fanola is a pricey brand, but its hair products really work. As the name suggests, it prevents yellow tints by using cool tones to lift your color. The shampoo is a deep violet and is ideal for grey, blond, and purple hair. Similar to conditioner, the product should sit in your hair for five to ten minutes before being rinsed. I like to mix a drop of the purple shampoo with regular shampoo. The purple shampoo, alone, does not have that hydrating, foamy lather.

 

HAIR TREATMENT

I use Biosilk’s Silk Therapy to soften my hair, since bleach causes knots, split ends, and course hair. This treatment makes brushing a lot easier, since the oil helps loosen tangles. After showering, I rub a nickel-sized amount into my ends, and it leaves my hair with a really nice scent. This brand can be found nearly anywhere, including CVS, Ulta, Amazon, and Marshalls.

 

 

+ Hoop Earrings | Claire’s

+ Stud Earrings | Old Navy

+ Crop Top | Forever 21

+ Sweatpants | Missguided

 

 

xx

Dana

APRIL THRIFT HAUL

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1. ABOUND MIDI SKIRT

Goodwill

$6.99

This skirt is made of stretchy spandex, with a layer of shimmery gold. The material is smooth and soothing against my skin, and the A-line silhouette is very flattering for my petit body. The high waist and midi-length makes my short self feel slightly thinner and taller. With its pleats and metallic sheen, this piece possesses a lot of elegance. 

 

2. SOPRANO SKIRT

Goodwill

$4.99

I own very few “going out” skirts, so this purchase will be put into good use. Mesh is one of my favorite materials, and I love the shape that it creates here. The dramatic pleats sets these bottoms apart from most ordinary black skirts.

 

3. BLOOD ORANGE CANDLE

Target

$9.99

Last winter, my boyfriend and I couch surfed at my friend’s apartment, in Los Angeles. In the morning, we woke up to the sweet and fruity smell of this blood orange candle. It’s always a challenge for me to find candles that I really like. This was immediately added to my shopping list, but my friend, Emily, ended up getting it for my birthday. I typically burn it, at night, when I’m doing a light workout or am winding down before bed.

 

4. LUSH SHORTS

Goodwill

$4.99

I always prefer clothes that look trendy, but are comfy and easy to wear. These floral shorts look best, high-waisted, with a crop top or a tucked-in shirt. They have an elastic waistband, so they slip on and off effortlessly. The stretchiness makes them very forgiving on food babies, and they're a refreshing break from tight denim shorts.

 

5. REFLECTIVE SUNGLASSES

lost and found

$0

My boyfriend, Adam, works at Century Theatres, and spotted these in the lost and found. He is in charge of this department, so he just gave the sunglasses to me. All of the ones I own happen to have mirror lenses. It’s not a choice I consciously make, but I do like how they completely shield my eyes. People say that eyes are the window to your soul, and as an introvert, I’d like to remain a mystery to most. 

 

6. SELFIE LESLIE MAXI DRESS

Goodwill

$6.99

Florals and pastels are heavily associated with weddings, so this dress is fit for the occasion. What’s special about its peony print is the watercolor-like design. This, along with the cut of the gown, adds a lot of romantic elements. It may reveal a little bit of skin, but in a very tasteful way. The high slit exposes one leg, while the neckline bares the shoulders. This thrift find came at the right moment, since I just received a wedding invitation, this week.

 

7. FRANCESCA'S MAXI DRESS

Goodwill

$6.99

I don’t normally do bold colors, but red has always been an exception. It’s a very sexy and striking color, even in this red-orange hue. This is an airy and lightweight dress that’s perfect for summer. Its back is entirely exposed, aside from a pair of criss-cross straps. A black leather jacket would accentuate the embroidery and really tie the look together.

 

8. CLEMENTINE KIDS SWADDLE

Two Birdees

$9

I already bought a Clementine Kids swaddle, last month, but I couldn't resist these colors. This is the company’s signature design, and it tends to sell out quickly. The print is very quirky, and I like how the mint and moss leaves compliment the bright orange. I thought this would look great as a beach or picnic blanket, so I’m looking forward to using this in the summer.

 

9. DEAD SEA MUD MASK

Amazon

$13.95

To remove impurities and keep my skin feeling soft, I use mud masks, once a week. All the masks I’ve used until now, had a 30-minute wait before rinsing. This one has a very creamy formula, and only takes a 10-minute wait and a light lather to wash off. Its other perks, include reducing pores and removing excess oil. The reason why I choose mud masks over sheet masks is because it lasts for months and produces less trash. In the long run, this will benefit both my wallet and the environment.

 

10. STILA MOLTEN MIDNIGHT EYESHADOW

Sephora

$24

I usually wear eyeshadow only for special events, like formals and weddings. After seeing YouTuber, Sophia Chang, demonstrate this product, I really wanted to try it. This liquid eyeshadow has a cotton swab applicator, just like lipgloss. I adore its sleek packaging, and unlike most glittery make up, these sparkles have minimal fallout. Emily knew that I wanted this, so it was part two of her birthday present, for me!

 

11. VSS DISPOSABLE WEED PEN

lost and found

$0

This is another lost and found article that I inevitably took. Adam cleaned it with alcohol wipes, so I won’t be catching any deadly diseases. Weed tends to make me drowsy, so I thought that getting a pen would help me fall asleep. I have to get up at 8am on weekdays, but my inner night owl has me tossing around. Adam already owns two pens, and this one basically has my name engraved on it. For one, it's made in my favorite color, and two, it says “BB” on the bottom. This actually stands for BBTank, but it’s also what Adam likes to call me. 

 

12. DOLLS KILL OVERALL DRESS

Goodwill

$6.99

The holographic leather is what caught my eye, but once I saw the Dolls Kill hang tag, I was sold. This is an overall dress with harness-like straps and metal hardware. It’s a bold statement piece that I would wear to a club, concert, or music festival. I have never seen anything like it, and I'm just waiting for any excuse to wear it.

 

13. ON THE BYAS JERSEY

Goodwill

$4.99

This jersey is from a men’s line that's sold at PacSun. It’s a size small, but fits like an oversized dress, on me. All of the cool tones work beautifully together, and I was very impressed with the quality. PacSun does not strike me as a premium store, so I did not expect to see this much attention to detail. Everything, down to the labels, was executed flawlessly. You know it’s a high quality garment, when even the labels look and feel luxurious.

 

14. LAUNDRY BAG

H&M

$17.99 

Ever since I moved in with my brother, I have been extremely spoiled. I was always babied growing up, and did not have to worry about cooking or cleaning, until I went to college. As soon as I moved back home, the same cycle persisted. My brother kept cooking dinner, cleaning the house, and even doing my laundry. We shared the same laundry basket, but have very different routines. In college, I would do my laundry every other week. This was the amount of time it took for my basket to fill up or for me to run out of underwear. My brother is the complete opposite, and often does laundry twice a week. I figured that buying my own laundry bag would force me to do laundry, and so far, it's been a success.

 

15. MISSGUIDED FISHNET BIKINI

Poshmark

$28

A fellow Drexel alum posted this on her blog, which lead me to an impulsive shopping moment. The suit was sold out on Missguided, so my last resort was Poshmark. The chances of finding the same suit in my size are slim, but luck was on my side. Everything was brand new, but the seller had sold the fishnet briefs, separately. All I got was the fishnet bikini top and thong bottoms. After days of searching the internet, I finally found an exact version, on Shein, to complete my set. 

 

 

xx

Dana

MARCH BIRTHDAY HAUL

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1. CLEMENTINE KIDS ZOOLOGY SWADDLE

Two Birdees

$9

I work at an organic, online kidswear company, called Two Birdees. We carry over 30 brands, and sell clothing, accessories, and toys. There are certain brands we have that make such cute prints, I wish they would design clothes in my size, too. Clementine Kids is the newest addition to our family, and they sell swaddles, which are basically baby blankets. They have so many beautiful, quirky prints, that I couldn’t resist buying one. I am planning on wearing it as a scarf or using it as home decor. One of the perks of being an employee is that I get to buy products at wholesale price, so it was 50% off.

 

2. ROSE GOLD HANGERS (30-PACK)

Amazon

$32.90

I have been using these hangers for years, but my brother got me more for my birthday. They were much needed because every time I plan an outfit, I end up piling my clothes onto “that one chair.” I have been using a dresser to store most of my wardrobe, but folded clothes quickly turn into a tossed-around mess. I am slowly switching everything to hangers, since it eliminates wrinkles and makes finding things so much easier.

 

3. MACRAME HANGING PLANTER

Amazon

$16.98

My boyfriend got me a Christmas Cactus last year, for Valentine’s Day, and it has begun blooming. Its branches can grow super long, depending on the size of its pot. Because it’s so unpredictable, I wanted to hang it from my ceiling, so that it can bloom, freely. I got this simple planter in a medium, but it comes in various sizes and styles on Amazon.

 

4. NUDE OFF-THE-SHOULDER SWEATSHIRT

Poshmark

$7

I love it when designers tweak basic staple pieces by adding a new, refreshing quality. All of the sweatshirts I own have an unusual twist, and this one has a single shoulder strap. The silhouette is off-the-shoulder, which slightly reveals my tattoo. It’s always nice getting to show off a little skin and ink. 

 

5. SETTLERS OF CATAN EXTENSION PACK

Amazon

$25.60

My friends and I often have game nights, and Settlers of Catan is one of our go-to's. We all wanted an extension pack, so my best friend, Ann, got me the Explorers and Pirates one, as a birthday present. I really enjoy strategy games, so I will definitely continue to build my collection and buy other extension packs.

 

6. URBAN OUTFITTERS LACE-UP SHIRT

Poshmark 

$6

I specially bought this shirt for my birthday, but I have been looking for something like it, for a while. Lace-up and cut-out clothes are two of my favorite styles. This top was listed at $8, on Poshmark, which is cheap as is. The seller then offered me an additional discount, and sold it at $6. With that money, I could probably just afford an accessory at Urban Outfitters, so this was such a good deal.

 

7. FENTY BEAUTY TROPHY WIFE HIGHLIGHTER

Sephora

$34

I only wear make up when I go out, and this consists of eyeliner, concealer, and lipstick. I don’t know jack about make up trends, so I never add anything extra, like contour or highlighter. After seeing raving reviews and pictures of Rihanna’s gold highlighter, I was convinced to change things up. I wanted that extra glow, and Ann treated me, once again, by getting this for my birthday.

 

8. CAT DISPOSABLE CAMERA

Urban Outfitters

Gift

All of my friends know that I am a crazy cat lady, so it’s inevitable that I would get something cat-related. My friend, Tony, gifted me this camera that comes with different cat graphics on each frame. The last time I used a disposable camera was either in elementary or middle school. Lately, I have been using my polaroid or Shutterfly account to print photographs. This is such a sweet and nostalgic present, and I am kind of intimated to use it. Hopefully I won’t waste any frames on bad pictures…

 

9. BRA(LETTE)

Poshmark

$13

I am all about freeing the nipple and refuse to wear a bra the majority of the time. Now that I have a full-time job, it would unfortunately be “unprofessional” for me to go braless. Most of my bras were extremely worn out, so I was left with a lot of bralettes. The best part about this bra is that it comes with removable pads. It has the appearance of a bralette, but can be worn as a regular, padded bra, when necessary. After surviving on pasties for months, this has become my new it-bra.

 

10. SEAMLESS UNDIES

UNIQLO

$7.50

I have finally found an alternative to thongs. Thanks to YouTuber, Weylie, I discovered that thongs are not the only option for hiding underwear lines. UNIQLO’s AIRism underwear are so thin, that no lines are visible. They are extremely stretchy and comfortable, and I hope that the company will produce more colors.

 

 

xx

Dana

BAD + BOUGIE

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You can still be bad and bougie if you can’t afford For Love and Lemons or Agent Provocateur lingerie. Lingerie is probably the last thing most women would consider thrifting, but great quality, condition, and labels do exist at thrift stores. I’ve thrifted all sorts of intimates, from bras and nightgowns to robes and slippers. The only thing I never thrift is underwear and for obvious reasons. Although I can’t expect what to find while thrifting, depending on what I’m looking for, I use these three resources to hunt for lingerie.

There will always be better quality and designers at consignment stores, since all merchandise is inspected and pre-selected. Buffalo Exchange is where I normally find nightgowns from trendy brands, like Free People and Urban Outfitters. I bought my Free People nightgown at Buffalo during Halloween, since it typically blends lingerie into the costume section. There’s always a plethora of kinky finds, like fishnets, corsets, and garters, throughout this season.

If I’m shopping for bras, then I use the app, Poshmark, since bras are rarely sold in thrift stores, let alone ones that fit perfectly. Similar to eBay, clothing categories can be narrowed down to specifics, like size, color, and condition. Another convenient feature is being able to trade items, instead of purchasing them. This is actually how I got my black aerie bandeau. I swapped it with a lipstick that I never wore. With bras being so expensive these days, online thrifting is another way to find cute and affordable bras.

When it comes to regular thrift stores, like Goodwill and Salvation Army, it all results to luck. The chance of discovering spotless, high-end lingerie is much slimmer, but it isn’t impossible. After all, I snagged my Christian Dior robe for about $10 at Goodwill. Dior has stopped producing lingerie for years, so I was surprised to find this vintage piece in mint condition. Without thrift shopping there’s no way I could own valuable gems, like this.

Lingerie is definitely a luxury that many girls want, but can’t afford. It’s funny how something so thin and fragile can cost so much money. This is why thrift shopping is a great alternative for purchasing lingerie. It makes sense to invest in regular everyday clothes, rather than garments that rarely anyone sees, but thrifting has eliminated this dilemma for me. I never have to compensate one for the other. I can still shop for both, while saving an immense amount of money.

 

Choker | Forever 21

Robe | Dior (Goodwill)

Bralette | aerie (Poshmark)

Undies | Forever 21

Slippers | Donna Salyers' Fabulous Furs (hand-me-down)

Nightgown | Free People (Buffalo Exchange)

 

Photography | Adam Redfield

 

xx

Dana

FELT LIKE SUMMER

 

Last weekend my friends and I planned a last-minute road trip to Southern California. This was my first time doing a SoCal trip with friends and actually getting to explore San Diego and Los Angeles. As a kid I traveled south to go to Disneyland or visit family, but I never got to shop, go to beaches, or do site seeing. The main focus of this trip was beautiful views and lots and lots of good food.

The hills and beaches in SoCal are so breathtaking, and one of the highlights of San Diego was catching the sunset on a Torrey Pines cliff. I wish we had an actual hike or beach day there, but due to limited time, we just drove to the top of the hill. The other San Diego beach we visited was La Jolla Beach, which was in an affluent neighborhood surrounded by trendy shops and tasty eateries. 

For day two we drove up to LA and spent most of the day at Venice Beach. While La Jolla had many high-end shops, like Ralph Lauren and White House Black Market, Venice had unique art stores and fashion labels. The atmosphere also felt more young and vibrant, since it was filled with music, graffiti, and street artists. Unfortunately, we had to leave mid-day for the long drive back, so we only got to walk the beach and drive through the shopping strip.

It was bittersweet that the trip only lasted two days, but the 20 hours of driving was well worth it. We jam-packed as many people and places into our schedule as possible, so it was a very fulfilling trip. We caught up with many old high school friends, and I also got to meet some of my friend’s San Jose State friends. Most importantly, we ate a lot during our stay, and I was not disappointed by any of the food we tried. In case you need help planning a SoCal getaway, below is a list I compiled of all the cafes and restaurants we visited.

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SAN DIEGO

Tacos el Gordo – You can’t go wrong with authentic Mexican food. If you need something cheap and fast, then I highly recommend going here. This restaurant is popular for its wide selection of tacos. Depending on the day, it’s open until 2 or 4am, so it’s perfect for midnight munchies.

Bobboi Natural Gelato – This gelato shop is on a strip along La Jolla Beach. It’s a mom and pop store that sells unusual, organic flavors, like cacti, rosewater, and vanilla charcoal. The shop has rustic vibes with wood, cacti, and chalkboard decorations, and there is also nice outdoor seating.

Bird Rock Coffee Roasters – Here I ordered the iced latte and tried some of my friend’s cold brew. Unlike some other coffee shops, like Starbucks and Peets, this place sells quality coffee that isn’t overly sweet or watered down. The store has plenty of space for getting work done, and there is a lot of interesting artwork along the walls.

Kogi BBQ – Like all Korean barbecue joints, this stuff will fill you up, so come with an empty stomach. Also make sure to go with someone who knows their shit because I had no idea how to order or prepare the meat. I’m not a huge meat eater, but their meat was so fresh and juicy. Even their side dishes, like egg soup and cheesy corn, were really good.

Kung Fu Tea – Most bubble tea places I go to don’t have a public restroom or a lot of seating, but this place has both. This is a good hangout spot for friends, since it has a bunch of tables that can seat large groups of people. The menu also has so many flavors to choose from, so there’s always something new to try.

 

LOS ANGELES

Café Collage – This is a small café one block away from Venice Beach. The dark roast cold brew was the only thing I tried, but it was definitely one of the best cold brews I’ve ever had. Although I didn't order any food, there was a lot of sandwich and salad options, and their pastry cases were filled with gourmet desserts. 

 

Photography | John Tran + Dana Nguyen

 

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Dana

STEP INTO MY WORLD

One’s private space is a strong reflection of their style, interest, and personality. From looking through my room, you could probably tell that I have a thing for skulls, candles, and photography. With so many white walls, I wanted to fill up the blank spaces as much as possible. Most of the décor in my room were produced for art projects, like the canvases, photography, and wooden sculpture. Some people may find my apartment’s awkward storage space and industrial walls off-putting, but that’s what I love about it. I had so many tiny pictures and knick-knacks to make use of the space, and I feel like the cement and metal walls add more character.

This was by far my favorite place that I’ve lived in throughout my college career. I’m going to miss falling asleep and waking up to the beautiful view of Philadelphia skylines. The city view, rooftop pool, and elevated park made living here so worthwhile. Having evo Philly as my second home was definitely a great way to end my senior year.

 

Photography | Dana Nguyen

 

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Dana

YOUNG, WILD, AND FREE

 

For Fourth of July weekend I crossed having an East Coast beach day off of my bucket list. My friends and I drove from Philadelphia to New Jersey to spend the day at Wildwood Beach. Let’s be real, the beach was not nearly as nice as West Coast ones, but that didn’t stop us from having fun. We sipped on fruity alcohol and splashed through the waves before strolling down the boardwalk. Everything about the trip felt effortless, and it was relaxing just to escape the city and be lazy beach bums for a day. 

My ultimate goal whenever I go to the beach is to pack light. This is one of the few places where you have an excuse to basically be naked in public. I wanted to take full advantage of that, and I also wanted to be as comfortable as possible for the long car ride. I decided on a lightweight halter dress that was very loose and flowy. This is yet another dumpster find that I snagged, and it’s an Urban Outfitters Kimchi Blue dress. Everything else I’m wearing is also secondhand, aside from my Zinke bikini, which I bought from an online Australian retailer.

 

Sunglasses | Buffalo Exchange

Earrings | Laney Flea Market

Dress | Urban Outfitters (dumpster dived)

Bikini | Zinke

 

Photography | Dana Nguyen + Alex Yang

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Dana