DIY OMBRE DIP DYE "WEDDING DRESS"

These are my old ballet shoes, from high school, that I just added studs to.

I came across this Marchesa dress years before I was engaged. It’s not a wedding dress, but I was so obsessed with the style. I adore Marchesa designs because of their light and airy materials, draping, and construction. Most of their evening gowns look like art pieces, since they’re heavily inspired by origami prints and shapes. 

Once I got engaged several years later, my mind didn’t budge. This still remained my main wedding dress inspiration, but I made many adjustments to mold it into exactly what I wanted. After brainstorming my vision, I began researching the process.

STEP I | READY-TO-WEAR OR CUSTOM DESIGN? | 1.5 YEARS AWAY

Trying to find the wedding dress I was envisioning was a fail, so I figured it would be easiest and cheapest to split it into a top and skirt. There was an Etsy shop that could do black ombre, but after they sent me a video of their spray painting method, I realized that I could DIY it at a significantly lower cost.

The first piece I bought was a white tulle skirt from a Ukrainian Etsy shop for $92.69. They have a wide variety of colors to choose from, and they custom make each one, based on the length and waist size that you want.

I then browsed for a white top similar to my inspirations, but had no luck, so that’s when I turned to custom designing.

STEP II | DESIGN SKETCH | 1 YEAR AWAY

I found a bridal shop, called Connie Tao Designs, that could custom make my top and dip dye my skirt, but communicating with them was extremely frustrating. Over the span of eight months, they didn’t design shit, aside from giving me this half-assed sketch that I had to repeatedly ask for. Can’t relate to all of their five-star reviews…

Then over the holidays, my aunt showed me her wedding album and told me that she designed her accessories, wedding dress, reception dress, and bridesmaid dresses all by herself. Unaware of the terrible experience I had with Connie, she asked if I needed help with anything, and that’s when everything magically started coming together.

STEP III | SOURCE FABRIC | 6 MONTHS AWAY

We went to JOANN to find fabric that matched my skirt. The closest ones we could find happened to be on sale for $38.66. I also got extra fabric, so that I could test the spray paint later on.

STEP IV | DESIGN TOP | | 6 MONTHS AWAY

My aunt took all of my measurements to create a pattern from scratch. She then used it to cut and sew scrap fabric first. After double checking that the sample fit on me, she proceeded with the actual wedding dress fabric from JOANN. It took her just one day to complete most of my top, which was such a relief after dealing with Connie. My aunt is an incredibly generous, hardworking, and talented person, and I’m so grateful that she put in so much time and effort to help me.

STEP V | FINAL FITTING | 2 MONTHS AWAY

Once the design was finalized, we realized that I needed lots of fashion tape to hold the top to my body. This wouldn’t be an issue if it was a regular wedding dress, but because I split it into two pieces, the backless top didn’t have fabric along the bottom to anchor it. I had to buy fashion tape for the first time, which was a life changer. If only I knew about this hack before…

STEP VI | TEST SPRAY PAINT | 2 MONTHS AWAY

My skirt had three layers of tulle, so I cut the same amount of swatches from our leftover fabric to test the spray paint first. I bought black and gray cans from Home Depot to try to create an ombre effect. Glidden was the only brand I saw that carried these specific colors, while also being suitable for fabric. The black was perfect, but the gray was really light, so I had to spray three separate layers.


STEP VII | SPRAY PAINT SKIRT | 2 MONTHS AWAY

I hung my skirt in my aunt’s backyard and started with spraying black along the bottom. Then I sprayed all of the gray color, until it ran out. I had to spray a second layer of black, since the gray slightly faded the first layer. This entire process took about two hours, and the paint dried almost immediately.

In the end, my customized “wedding dress” checked off every single one of my boxes, and then some…

+ significantly under budget

+ hid food baby

+ accentuated tattoos

+ minimal, but still made a statement

+ comfortable / breathable / moveable

+ easily used bathroom without assistance

+ easily / quickly did outfit change for wedding dance

Photography | Katie Clare Photography

xx

Dana

BACHELORETTE PARTEA

No one knows my wants and needs better than I do, so I decided to plan my own bachelorette party and just delegate tasks to my bridesmaids. All I wanted was two simple things: a dance class and a tea party.

With Adobe InDesign, I created these little itinerary cards to map out the day. If you don’t have this software, Canva and Figma are free alternatives! I handed them to my bridesmaids with short sets that I bought for the dance class. At first, I tried looking for wedding themed swag, but realized that basic solids were a safer choice. I just thought these tees and shorts were more practical and versatile than anything with bachelorette slogans.

I love dancing, but I rarely get to take dance classes with my friends, so I booked a private hip hop class at Rae Studios in San Francisco. It was so fun getting to share my favorite activity with my favorite people. I was also mesmerized by how airy, bright, and well decorated the studio was. It was a place that I was simply happy to be in.

After the dance class, we had brunch at Lapisara Eatery, which is just a five-minute walk away. They have so many yummy dishes to choose from that are beautifully plated. What I was most excited for was their assorted iced lattes that come with the cutest bear-shaped ice. Some of the flavors were ube, lavender, and salted caramel macchiato, just to name a few.

We all went home to get freshened up, and then I had the girls over for afternoon tea. I’ve never had a tea party before, so I had to make it happen! All of the tableware are things that I’ve collected from Poshmark, Home Goods, and other random shops. For the decor, my Maid of Honor bought me a tassel garland and “SHE FOUND HER MAIN SQUEEZE” banner from Etsy. Since I couldn’t find another bachelorette banner that I was envisioning, I just used the one from my MoH as a stencil to DIY a “BACHELORETTE PARTEA” one.

For the menu, we had…

For the rest of the night we just ate, drank, played games, and spilled lots and lots of tea.

+ private dance class | Rae Studios


+ “SHE FOUND HER MAIN SQUEEZE” banner | Etsy (currently unavailable)


+ “BACHELORETTE PARTEA” banner | DIY


+ tassel garland | Etsy


+ gold foil curtain | Amazon


+ arch | Wayfair


+ short sets | Free Birdees


+ dress | Kiki Riki (Poshmark)



xx

Dana

SAVE THE DATES

My fiance and I decided to save some time, money, and paper and do evites for the wedding, so I wanted to make our save the dates extra special. I always gravitated towards the gold foiled vellum that I saw on Pinterest. The design is very elegant, yet simple and straightforward, so I knew this was the style I wanted. 

After clicking through a shit ton of websites, this Etsy package was the most affordable option I found with the font and format that I liked. It also includes a choice of different colored envelopes, so we went with gray. We needed less than 60 cards, but we ordered 80 just in case. 

Everyone always attaches the vellum on top of their photograph, but we requested for it to be on the back, so that our photograph is clearly visible. I love vellum designs, but I always thought it was strange to have the photograph covered with hazy text. 

Metallic wax seals are extra embellishments that I was always drawn to. For the true old-fashioned experience, I wanted to buy wax and a custom monogrammed stamp, but I figured that we’d rarely use them again. Since we’re only mailing save the dates to a small group of people, it made more sense to buy these wax seal stickers. We still got to customize our monogram, so I designed ours using a free font from DaFont, called “Chopin Script”.

We’re lucky in that we live close enough to most of our friends and family to hand them our save the dates in person. There’s roughly 20 people that we need to mail to, so I only went all out and wrote amateur calligraphy for those few. There’s really no point in including envelopes for everyone else, especially if they’ll likely get tossed. For the calligraphy, I tried my best to imitate another font, from DaFont, called “Nathalia”.  

+ save the dates | Etsy

$151.81 for 80 cards / envelopes ($1.90 ea)

+ wax seal stickers | Stamptitude

$48 for 25 ($1.92 ea)

+ stamps | USPS

$12 for 20 ($1.67 ea)  

+ ring boxes | Etsy

$53.50 ($26.75 ea) 

+ his wedding band | Revolution Jewelry

$657


+ her engagement ring | Loop Jewelry

$795


+ her wedding band | Etsy

$402.40

+ engagement photography | Katie Clare Photography

We hired Katie to shoot our wedding, but most of her

wedding packages also include an engagement

session. This is one of the many reasons why we

chose her over all of the other photographers that I

found.

SAVE THE DATES TOTAL = $211.81

xx

Dana

DIY BRIDESMAID BOXES

This was a really fun project for me, since I love planning, crafting, decorating, branding and packaging. I wanted this unboxing to be a special and memorable moment for my bridesmaids, so I tried to personalize everything as much as possible. I know that starting the wedding planning process can be daunting for most people, so here are some creative and affordable ideas that can hopefully inspire you.

What’s inside the box?

1. polaroid pictures | $5.32

If you download Shutterfly’s mobile app, you can get unlimited prints. All you have to do is pay $5.32 for shipping. Since I’m always taking pictures, I thought this would be a cute way to reflect on some of the fun moments we all had together.


2. mini bottles | $14.48

Most people like to celebrate with champagne, but not all of my girls can drink. I bought sparkling apple cider from Dollar Tree, for those who are sober, and champagne from BevMo!, for those who like to get tipsy.


3. hair ties | $10.72

Not only are these useful, but they’re really cheap and easy to make. Most Etsy shops that specialize in elastic ribbon, have lots of colors to choose from. Just make sure that the description says “elastic” because they all look the same, and I accidentally bought non-elastic ones before. I chose the ⅜” width, and 1 yard per color is enough to make 4 hair ties. I just cut them into 9” pieces and then knotted them at the end. I then cut construction paper into 4” x 3 ¼” pieces to hold the hair ties in place.

4. candles | $36

I bought these lovely candles from a female Black-owned business called KSM Candle Co. They have such a wide selection of handmade soy candles and a long list of descriptions for each scent. It was really hard to narrow down my choices, but the ones that I bought were Mojito, Citronella, Sunny & Mellow and Black Currant Tea.

5. matchboxes | $11

What’s the use of candles without some spark? I actually bought the matchsticks and matchboxes separately on Etsy, since I couldn’t find the plain pink boxes that I wanted. This method was significantly cheaper, since most of the matchbox packages I saw required customization or large order quantities.

6. paper lipsticks | $7.44

This is a beautiful Valentine’s Day DIY that I stumbled upon on Pinterest. Instead of typing “Will you be my Valentine?”, I just changed it to “Will you be my bridesmaid?” I am a huge lipstick lover, so I thought this would be a fitting way to pop my question. I bought all of the construction paper from Michaels, since they have a wide assortment of colors and textures to choose from.

How did you package it?

+ boxes | Etsy

$6.53

+ ribbon | JOANN 

$9.98

+ shredded paper | Paper Source

$3.99

+ tags | I DIYed all of my tags, but if you want to save time, you can buy them in bulk. I cut the name tags into

2 ¾” x 1 ⅝” pieces and the “Drink Me” tags into 1 ¾” x ⅞”  pieces. 

$0


The total was roughly $100, and including taxes and shipping, it cost about $30 to arrange each box. 


xx

Dana

PRETTY SAVAGE

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This weekend, my friends and I are going to watch BLACKPINK’s virtual concert. I was initially going to dress in black and pink, but my friends suggested that we should wear a BLACKPINK inspired look, instead.

The K-Pop industry’s budget is insane, so the girls have the most striking costume changes for all of their performances. My personal favorites were their glittery stage outfits at Coachella and their Tomb Raider outfits in “Kill This Love.” I also love seeing them dress in their sponsored designer labels, especially Jennie. She always looks so posh and trendy in Chanel. Lisa is the other member who stands out with her badass streetwear, oversized fur jackets and ever-changing hair color.

I rummaged through my closet, pulling out anything flashy, edgy and K-Pop-ish, and this monochrome look is what I came up with. The miniskirt has a perky girly silhouette, so I balanced it out with a modern asymmetrical crop top.

To accessorize, I put on a choker, which seems to be just as popular in Korea, as it is in the US. If I could spice up this outfit, even more, I would wear a harness or garter. I’m really into all of the unique body straps that Asian pop stars wear, but I haven’t found any that I like yet. This belt is the only accessory I have that resembles that style, so this will do for now. I actually bought it from YesStyle, which is an online Asian store that sells Korean and Japanese-inspired clothes and accessories. For shoes, a pair of booties are always reliable for both comfort and height.

The weather has gotten significantly colder this week, so for my final touch, I layered on my shearling jacket. It’s the perfect excuse to channel my inner Lisa.

Overall, I’d say this look is 10% “pretty” and 90% “savage.” How you like that???

+ BLACKPINK Light Stick | BLACKPINK

+ Jacket | UNIF (Poshmark)

+ Crop Top | boohoo

+ Skirt | Soprano (Goodwill)

+ Belt | YesStyle

+ Booties | Steve Madden (Poshmark)

+ Choker | Forever 21

+ Lipstick | MAC’s Cyber

Photography | Adam Redfield

xx

Dana

2020 BOOK REPORTS

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When I was little, I was one big bookworm. My best friend and I would competitively read, during recess, to see who could finish more books in a shorter period of time. As I got older, I started reading less. Once I entered college, I would only read one book a year and, sometimes, none at all. I wanted to rekindle my passion for reading, so my goal this year was to read one book a month.

There are two valuable lessons that I learned this year. One was to decolonize my bookshelf, by trying to read more works from non-cis, non-straight and non-White authors. It’s important to expand your narratives and to not allow White to be the constant default. If you’re only reading books written by people who look and think like you, then that’s another problem. The second was to stop buying books from Amazon and Barnes & Noble, and to start supporting small bookshops, especially Black-owned ones, instead. 


If you’re interested in reading any of the following books, try shopping from one of these sources.


+ Bookshop

+ Conde Nast Traveler

+ The Oprah Magazine

  1. The Wise Man’s Fear by Patrick Rothfuss

    4/5

    This is a fantasy book, which is notorious for being extremely long. This particular one is 994 pages, so if you don’t like long reads, then this isn’t for you. I personally love thick books, especially if they are a part of a series, since I get really invested in the characters and their own little world. 


    This book is like a warp between Harry Potter and Lord of the Rings and is the second part of the series. It’s about a boy who becomes an arcanist, which is basically a fancier word for magician. As a kid, he experienced a terrifying tragedy, so he attends a university to research and master more arcane skills to fulfill a personal quest. 


    Patrick Rothfuss’ first book, Name of the Wind, was a lot more captivating, so this one fell short in comparison. I couldn’t put the first one down, so if you’re into fantasy novels, then you have to read it. Rothfuss has also been in the process of writing the third book for nearly a decade now. This book came out in 2011, so my boyfriend and I have been waiting for him to wrap this shit up.

  2. Becoming by Michelle Obama

    5/5

    Michelle Obama got really candid about her day-to-day life as First Lady. In this autobiography, she shared her life story, from her upbringing in the South Side of Chicago to living and working in the White House. She revealed the lack of privacy and freedom that she had, since they were always shadowed by Secret Service. Even a simple stroll to the corner store would be a major inconvenience, since it would require a lot of preparation and coordination. She also recounted the struggles of raising Sasha and Malia, while Barack Obama served as senator and president, and the racism that she experienced, as soon as the presidential campaign began. 


    Through all of the stress, exposure and scrutiny, she handled everything with such grace. The role of First Lady technically doesn't have any formal obligations, but she made the most out of her influential position. During her eight years in the White House, she launched multiple programs, including Let’s Move!, Let Girls Learn, Joining Forces and The School Lunch, to name a few. Her most impactful contributions were tackling childhood obesity in America and advocating for female education worldwide. 


    The Obamas are the ultimate power couple. Barack and Michelle’s love story is absolutely adorable, and I felt so giddy reading about how their relationship blossomed. This was a very uplifting read, so if you’re looking for a pick-me-up, then this is the book.

  3. Know My Name by Chanel Miller

    5/5

    Chanel Miller is the resilient survivor from Stanford University’s horrific rape case. Most sexual assault survivors want to remain anonymous, but she was incredibly brave to come out and write a detailed story about her entire experience. She wanted to uplift women who have endured the same trauma. She also wanted to expose college’s failure to protect and support survivors and the criminal justice system’s inherent sexism and racism.


    Miller had a unanimous jury, three credible witnesses and plenty of physical evidence in her defense, but Brock Turner still got away with only three months in jail. This is the epitome of White privilege, specifically White male privilege. Miller condemned the media for glorifying Turner as a Stanford swimmer and dismissing his past drug use, criminal activity and sexual harassment. In contrast, the most irrelevant dirt is dug up on Black people who commit misdemeanors, like stealing a damn candy bar. Miller recognized that Turner’s family presumably sheltered him physically and financially through all of his mistakes and failures. In their eyes, they didn’t seem to think that he did anything wrong. Instead, they had the audacity to look at Miller with disdain, as if she was the inconvenient burden that was destroying their lives. In his court statement, Turner’s dad flatly said, “This is a steep price to pay for twenty minutes of action out of his twenty plus years of life.” The Turners had absolutely no remorse.


    As for Stanford’s role, Miller didn’t ask for much. She simply wanted them to add more street lights to the area where she was raped, and to provide other campus survivors easily accessible resources to cope with their trauma. Resolving these issues was a long, excruciating process. Stanford was uncompromising until the press pressured their asses by revealing their lack of accountability. Once they promptly responded to Miller, their cooperation was merely surface level and redemption driven.


    Reading this book was an emotional roller coaster ride. It takes a really good writer to evoke such deep reactions. Miller made me laugh, curse and cry. Her book was ironically one of the few that had me laughing the most, and it’s all due to her witty and charismatic sense of humor. It was also mind blowing seeing her reference so many cities I’m familiar with. She grew up in Silicon Vally, but temporarily lived in Philadelphia. Her boyfriend studied at University of Pennsylvania, which neighbors Drexel University, where I graduated. From the Bay Area to Philadelphia, she kept mentioning all sorts of places that I’ve visited, like Saxby’s and Church of 8 Wheels. It made me wonder if I ever crossed paths with her.


    Miller is one hell of a warrior for turning this traumatic incident into an empowering and enlightening purpose. I had trouble putting this book down, so I finished it within a week. Each chapter ended with a cliffhanger that kept me flipping through. My rare excuses for taking breaks were either peeing or sleeping. Her story is one that everyone should read. My only disclaimer is if you are a sexual assault survivor, this book may trigger you, since Miller included many graphic details. However, it may also be healing, since I read many comments from survivors, expressing how they felt seen and heard. If you don’t read her book, then please read or listen to the victim impact statement that she made in court. It was just as powerful and moving.

  4. The Sun and Her Flowers by Rupi Kaur

    4/5

    This is Rupi Kaur’s second poetry book, following Milk and Honey. It’s full of short poems that are divided into five stages: wilting, falling, rooting, rising and blooming. This collection primarily focuses on immigration, and it had a lot of poems that I could relate to. There was one about her mom that made me cry my eyes out, since I feel the exact same way about mine. For anyone who is an immigrant, or who is the first generation of their family, this book will touch you. 


    Kaur was born in Punjab, India, and she and her family immigrated to Canada when she was four years old. She recounted all of the obstacles they faced, leaving their home country and adjusting to an entirely new culture. She also recognized and valued all of the sacrifices her parents made to ensure a more comfortable and promising future for her and her sister.


    This was an uplifting short read, but it left me wanting more. It wasn’t as strong and thought-provoking as Milk and Honey. Milk and Honey had many poems that I had to re-read and break down to fully digest. I thought these poems lacked depth, in comparison. This book is still worth the read, regardless, and Kaur is definitely someone you should keep your eyes on. She is a badass feminist full of soul, wisdom and elegance.

  5. The Autobiography of Malcom X as told to Alex Haley

    4/5

    I’ve always known that Malcom X was someone of importance and respect, but I never knew what he did to acclaim his recognition. Growing up, we were reminded of and “educated” on Martin Luther King Jr. every single year, but I don’t recall hearing or reading about Malcom X in school. I’m referring to preschool all the way up to college. Therefore, I decided to educate myself, and after reading this autobiography, I feel like MLK and Malcom X go hand in hand. Although they had extremely different styles of social activism, both were essential to fighting for Black rights. Malcom X was shaking up the North, while MLK was making waves in the South.


    I can see that White people don’t want to teach about Malcom X because he was much more controversial, in comparison to MLK. He had a long criminal history, and after prison, he became a devout Muslim who preached that the White man was the devil. It’s no surprise that White people would prefer the peaceful minister over the radical ex-convict.


    Malcom X was actually illiterate and inarticulate, until he was 20 years old. It wasn’t until he entered prison, that a fellow inmate, named John Elton Bembry, taught him how to read and write. Here, he discovered a new passion, and the prison library became his haven. He spent every waking moment reading, and there didn’t seem to be a subject that he wasn’t interested in. He was like a big balloon that absorbed all sorts of information, from Greek Mythology to Occidental and Oriental philosophies. He even combed through the entire dictionary, page by page, to expand his vocabulary. Malcom X initially relied on theft and drug dealing to make a living, which is what brought him into prison. This was a man who went from solely speaking street slang to eloquently leading mosques and rallies of thousands of people. He was a “non-educated” and imprisoned Black man, who went on to debate “educated” White men. He took a discouraging experience and turned it into a new profound path.


    The press constantly twisted his words and painted him as a dangerous person. Yes, he spoke with fiery conviction out of anger, but for valid and understandable reasons. He never hurt a single being, and he never even swore. He was an incredibly influential activist, who had thousands of loyal followers, so White people felt threatened by that. Malcom X held just as many protests as MLK, so I’m astounded that I wasn’t aware of the huge impact he has made. He had a larger support from international leaders than from American ones. He believed that Black Americans and Africans should unite because without international recognition, the fight against oppression wouldn’t be as effective.


    One of Malcom X’s strongest attributes was that he wasn’t afraid of change or admitting his past mistakes. He used to be ashamed of being Black, so he straightened his hair and dated a White woman to gain stature. Then he became anti-White and condemned all White people. Then he realized that not all White people were evil and that he needed to work with them, in order to resolve this race issue. His journey is the perfect example of how no one is perfect, and that everyone naturally evolves.


    This autobiography was a little long, dry and dense, so it may be difficult for some people to finish. Malcom X also recounted raw memories of violent racism, so this is no light and casual story. He uncovered many events that our textbooks intentionally omit. His book provided a concise history lesson of all of the injustices that White societies has caused Black Americans, as well as people from foreign continents, like India, Africa and more. As long as my review may be, it barely summarizes 10% of Malcom X’s insights and values and what he has accomplished. White America has continuously tried to re-write and minimize his legacy, so this is a very valuable read.

  6. The New Jim Crow by Michelle Alexander

    4/5

    This is a very dense book full of research and analysis on America’s racist prison, law enforcement and criminal justice systems. Many people are deceived by the myths that police are protecting us, prisons are locking up violent criminals and legal proceedings are upholding the principle of “innocent until proven guilty.” Michelle Alexander thoroughly exposed how the systems are primarily intended to oppress Black people. To put matters into perspective, she recounted that “hundreds of years ago, our nation put those considered less than human in shackles; less than one hundred years ago, we relegated them to other side of town; today we put them in cages.” She wanted to emphasize that nothing has changed, and that racial caste has merely been redesigned.


    Alexander broke down how the Nixon, Reagan and Clinton administrations collectively built these monstrous systems over time. She identified that the Nixon administration used “law and order” to form “a new racial caste system without violating the law.” Just like Donald Trump, Richard Nixon’s campaign strategy was racialized fear mongering. He perpetuated the misleading stereotype that Black people are dangerous criminals. The Reagan administration later reinforced law and order, by declaring the War on Drugs. Reports found that there was no drug epidemic to be begin with. In contrary, drug use was actually declining in America. This was a fixed strategy for officials to continue exploiting Black people. 


    Ronald Reagan hired media outlets to circulate stories of Black people on crack cocaine. In doing so, he was able to gain strong public support on a slew of detrimental legislations. The Fourth Amendment was basically irrelevant throughout the War on Drugs. SWAT teams were encouraged to search people’s homes without any warning, reasonable suspicion or evidence of criminal activity. Law enforcement was also authorized to keep any cash and assets that they found, while raiding for drugs. Alexander revealed that as “long as the number of drug arrests [increased] or at least [remained] high, federal dollars [continued] to flow.” Revenue was the greatest incentive for the war.


    As the war was taking place, the new legislations barely had any effect on White people. They were being stopped and searched disproportionately less. If they were convicted for the same crimes as Black people, their penalties and sentences were significantly lighter. Alexander shared how “studies show that people of all colors use and sell illegal drugs at remarkably similar rates.” This clearly indicates that the government isn’t concerned with reducing crime, at all. Its top priority is maintaining wealth and power, and the historically successful way to do that is by dividing and conquering, based on race.


    Alexander firmly believes that the Clinton administration was responsible for the current racial undercaste. Bill Clinton tried so hard to win over Republican votes, that his campaigns were revolved around being “tough on crime.” His 1994 Crime Bill caused the prison population to peak above all other presidential records. Alexander stated that America “now has the highest rate of incarceration in the world.” Clinton’s bill included the three-strikes law, which sentenced those who commit two or more felonies to life in prison. Alexander stressed that “a lifetime sentence for a first-time drug offense is unheard of in the rest of the developed world.” The bill also made it legal to discriminate against criminals in almost every way possible. Alexander explained that “once you’re labeled a felon, the old forms of discrimination - employment discrimination, housing discrimination, denial of the right to vote, denial of educational opportunity, denial of food stamps and other public benefits, and exclusion from jury service - are suddenly legal.” These harsh restrictions made it nearly impossible for ex-convicts to get back on their feet. As a result, many Black people were left homeless. 


    This is a deadly loophole that keeps many Black people ostracized. Rather than allocating funds to prevention and rehabilitation programs, the government chooses to expand incarceration and law enforcement budgets. It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to realize that excluding ex-convicts, from all basic rights, will force them to revert back to crime. White politicians know exactly what they’re doing.


    This book is packed with infuriating and heartbreaking information, but this is critical knowledge that everyone should have. My lengthy review hardly scratches its surface. If you can’t manage to read the book, then at least watch the documentary, 13th. It outlines all of Alexander’s insights, and she’s even interviewed throughout the movie.

  7. Thick by Tressie McMillan Cottom

    3/5

    Tressie McMillan Cottom is a writer, sociologist and professor. In this book, she expressed her struggles living as a Black woman in America. She recollected her pivotal racist experiences, from attending school to working in the publication field. 


    Cottom recalled, “the first time a white woman teacher told [her] that [her] breasts were distracting was in the sixth grade. Over the years, white women with authority over [her] have told [her] how wrong or dangerous or deviant [her] body is.” Studies have indicated that society treats Black boys and girls, as adults, far sooner than kids of any other race. On top of that, most Black girls are either mocked or sexually harassed, for their curvy bodies.


    Throughout her career, Cottom has often been forced to juggle multiple jobs, at once. Although writing is one of her greatest passions, she couldn’t afford to solely make a living off of it. She pointed out that “media platforms made more money from black women’s personal essays than any black woman [she knows] of ever made from publishing them.” While Cottom was writing articles for numerous companies, like The Atlantic and The Washington Post, she was also working as a community organizer and sociology professor. She stressed how difficult it is for Black women to get the pay and recognition that they deserve. Her dream is to witness a Black woman flourish in a single, full-time publication position. Rather than being confined within one category, she wants this woman to write whatever the hell she wants.


    Her story that resonated with me the most, was her traumatizing birth experience. She was bleeding for three days, but the doctor insisted that it was constipation or food poisoning, since it was her butt, and not her back, that was in pain. When they finally gave her an ultrasound, they discovered that she had two tumors, and that she had been in labor for those three days. While Cottom was cursing in pain on the hospital bed, the nurse warned her to watch her language, while the anesthesiologist threatened to leave, if she didn’t shut up. Giving birth is regarded as the worst pain that anyone could experience, so her agony was a perfectly normal and valid reaction, especially in her special circumstance. Cottom’s baby sadly died after its first breath, and in response, the nurse ruthlessly said, “Just so you know, there was nothing we could have done, because you did not tell us you were in labor.” She redirected the blame, as if Cottom would have presumed, any of this, after the doctor had misdiagnosed her. Based on statistics, Cottom was actually considered “lucky.” Many Black women are discriminated against by health professionals and don’t get the urgent care that they need. The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention reported that “black women are 243 percent more likely to die from pregnancy-or childbirth-related causes than are white women.”


    Cottom emphasized how social activists primarily focus on the criminalization and incarceration of Black men, while neglecting the adversities of Black women. To reiterate her concern, she quoted Malcom X.

    “The most disrespected person in America is the black woman. The most unprotected person in America is the black woman. The most neglected person in America is the black woman.”


    Cottom shared a lot of vulnerable and meaningful insights, but her deliverance made me feel confused and detached. Her writing was a little too dense for me, and I had difficulty understanding her analogies and sense of humor.

  8. How to Be an Antiracist by Ibram X. Kendi

    5/5

    Out of all of the antiracist books I read, this was the best one. I really enjoyed Ibram Kendi’s wit and sarcasm, and his writing was thought provoking, yet digestible. Books on racism are typically complex, but this one read like a story. Kendi walked the audience through his life, from graduating high school to starting a family. Each chapter began with a memory that transitioned into a teachable moment. He had the perfect balance of personal experiences and antiracist lessons.


    His fundamental point was that a racist person is “one who is supporting a racist policy through their action or inaction.” Many think that the opposite of “racist” is “not racist,” but non-Black and White passing Black people can benefit from racism from doing nothing, at all. For example, choosing not to engage in politics is a racist privilege. I for one, used to solely vote for the president and would never research local candidates or propositions because it was “too confusing.” I learned that I was being complicit, since I wasn’t actively voting against racist policies and politicians. These racist foundations weren’t negatively affecting me, so I allowed them to affect other people. So many Black people can’t vote, due to voter suppression, so I was ignorant for taking my privilege for granted.


    Kendi also stressed that rather than calling out racist people, we should spend more time and energy on striking down racist policies. He warns that pointing fingers, in spite of political correctness, diverges our attention away from the root of the problem. Instead of bitching about Karen, we should focus on the system that enables her to put Black lives in danger by merely calling the police. Why do White women feel protected by the police, while Black people feel threatened by them? The regulation of police departments, or lack thereof, is the core issue that we should be trying to reform.


    Most importantly, Kendi stands behind Intersectionality, which is the concept of how different social and political identities create multiple tiers of privilege and oppression. He recognized his privilege as a cisgendered male and emphasized how Black transgender women are the ones who face the most discrimination. He truly believes that all Black lives matter and that you can’t be antiracist if you are homophobic, transphobic, etc.


    These are just a few of Kendi’s many profound arguments. From the very first chapter, he challenged my thoughts by either introducing me to new ideas, or changing my perspective on certain matters. This is a non-negotiable required read.

  9. The Seven Husbands of Evelyn Hugo by Taylor Jenkins Reid

    5/5

    This is a fiction about a classic Hollywood movie star, named Evelyn Hugo. She is a very complex character that Taylor Jenkins Reid based off of glamorous bombshells, like Marilyn Monroe and Elizabeth Taylor. Evelyn is cunning and manipulative, but Reid narrated her in a way that still makes you mesmerized by her. Her sassy and sarcastic remarks made me laugh and smile throughout the entire book.


    As fame and money driven as this plot may be, it still touched upon many important issues, like sexism, ageism, racism and all of the other “isms” that you can think of. Evelyn is a Cuban brunette, but she dyed her hair blond and changed her last name to Hugo, knowing that this was Hollywood’s ideal lead. Marilyn Monroe, who was naturally a redhead named, Norma Jeane Mortenson, did the exact same thing. Although Hollywood has become more inclusive, White people continue to dominate the industry, so there are still a lot of barriers to break down. 


    Beyond typecasting, the book also depicted how the press notoriously tears down women. Each chapter began with a newspaper or magazine clipping that gossiped about Evelyn’s work or personal life. In one online thread, someone commented, “This is a woman who has donated MILLIONS OF DOLLARS to charities for battered women’s organizations and LGBTQ+ interests, and now she’s auctioning off gowns for cancer research and all you can talk about is her eyebrow game? Seriously?” This is exactly how real life press has been targeting female figures for decades. From Audrey Hepburn to Angelina Jolie, no matter how much charity they have done, or what prestigious awards they have achieved, their physical appearance overshadows their milestones.


    Another significant topic, in the book, was sexuality, and what it was like to be closeted in the 1960s. People were ostracized, convicted and sent to mental institutions for coming out. Many were murdered for being queer, and these cases weren't taken seriously, at all. If anything, the police would take part in the crime, or help cover it up. Evelyn raised a valuable point when she acknowledged that she was taught to like men. Many people never explore to identify whether they are gay, straight, bisexual, etc. In most cases, they are brainwashed that straight is the “norm,” and so they just run with it.


    This was an incredibly suspenseful book that I was excited to pick up at the end of each day. Reid kept dropping one juicy, twisted secret after the other, so it made me want to keep turning the pages. The story had ongoing plot twists that really shock you, especially at the end. Reid also has quite a broad vocabulary, so she introduced me to many new words. I was constantly looking up and jotting down definitions. Overall, I learned a total of 23 words, including egregious, lascivious and extemporaneous. This was a very fashion forward and female empowering read, and it was, hands down, the most entertaining one of them all.

  10. Home Body by Rupi Kaur

    3/5

    Out of all of Rupi Kaur’s books, this one felt like her most vulnerable one. She relieves a lot of raw emotions and recounts many graphic traumatic experiences, like rape and grooming. She opens up about her depression and how fame and success has affected her. As evident in all of her work, she continues to be a driving force of intersectional female empowerment, mentally, sexually and emotionally. 


    This was her shortest book yet, but she included a lot more lengthy poems that were several paragraphs long. As always, she parts her poems into different phases, and these were titled “mind,” “heart,” “rest” and “awake.” I couldn’t grasp the overall theme from each one, since they all seemed to muddle together. The framework and cohesion of both, Milk and Honey and The Sun and Her Flowers, were much stronger. Kaur was expressing such painful emotions, yet the writing was very flat. This book didn’t make me think and feel as much as the last two did.

  11. Uncomfortable Conversations with a Black Man by Emmanuel Acho

    3/5

    I think this is a good book for someone who is just starting to learn about race and racism. Emmanuel Acho covered a lot of information, like White privilege and allyship, that other Black authors have written about in much greater depth. The word, “conversations,” is in the title, so I think his intent was to make the book read like a casual conversation. I personally didn’t like this loose style of writing, and many of his analogies seemed really corny to me. This is a short and straightforward read, but is still quite resourceful.

    At the end, he provided a long list of books, movies, organizations and all other sorts of Black work to support. I find this so important because becoming an ally can seem overwhelming, and many people may not know where to start. Some may never start, at all, for this very reason. That’s a lame excuse in my opinion, but I think it’s most effective to not only educate people on racism, but to also follow up with call-to-acton resources to help guide them. To non-Black people, don’t just share things out of anger and sorrow. Be like Acho and actually highlight actions that people can do in reaction to that frustration, like donating money or signing petitions.

    Although I didn’t get much out of this book, I highly recommend subscribing to Acho’s YouTube channel. I think he’s much more infectious on camera, and his videos pose a lot of critical questions regarding race. It’s a really solid baseline for the difficult, yet mindful conversations we should be having with the people in our lives.

  12. Life-Changing Foods by Anthony William

    2/5

    Take everything Anthony William says with a grain of salt. He doesn’t do any research, he isn’t professionally trained and he doesn’t have a doctorate. He is a self-proclaimed medical medium, who is supposedly guided by a higher power he calls, “Spirit.” When he was four years old, he heard a voice warning him that his grandma had lung cancer, before anyone else was aware. After she got tested, the doctor confirmed the diagnosis. Since then, he has allegedly been able to detect people’s illnesses, along with which foods can cure them. According to William, Spirit gives him verbal body scans, detailing everything, from people’s blood clots to tumors.


    His book is entirely comprised of food “facts,” but has absolutely no sources. Just as Spirit informs William of people’s health, it apparently fed him all of the knowledge in this book, as well. He alphabetically listed 50 healthy foods, from apples to wild blueberries. He divided them into four categories he calls, “The Holy Four” (fruits, vegetables, herbs and spices, and wild foods). He recorded all of the conditions and symptoms that they help counteract, followed by a nutritious recipe for each one. A lot of his drinks, snacks and meals were actually simple and tasty looking, so I do want to give them a try. Aside from his enticing recipes, many of his wild claims sound like a big stretch. Here are three that me laugh.

    + If you grow your food, your plants will know exactly what you need and how to cater to you. For example, if you have cancer, your plants will be able to sense it and know what nutrients to feed you, in order to fight it. William believes that there are miracles in planting and maintaining your own food.

    + Birth control is a cause in women’s low infertility rates, since it trains their bodies not to conceive. Therefore, when they do decide to have a baby, their chances of getting pregnant are less likely.

    + Men should refrain from ejaculation that isn’t meant for procreation because it will lower their sperm productivity. Frequent ejaculations will make sperm more “docile, listless, and undernourished, both from being overused and because zinc reserves are lost with each emission.”

    I clearly didn’t do my research before buying this book. I had no familiarity about the author and his backstory. I just saw Jenn Im post his book in her recommended reading and found it valuable how he breaks down the benefits of each fruit and vegetable. While reading the conditions and symptoms that each food prevents, I saw certain ones repeated within the same paragraph on multiple occasions. It was as if no one proofread the damn book. I also didn’t like how William ended the book on such a religious note. He preached that there are angels helping us cultivate nutritional foods, and that we can call upon them to help disarm the chemically treated ones. When it comes to nutrition and health studies, I look to science, not faith. Despite all of this, William still has a peculiarly large cult following, including celebrities, like Miranda Kerr, Gwyneth Paltrow and the Kardashians. 

    Please do yourself a favor, and don’t waste your time on his antics.

  13. The Gay Agenda by Ashley Molesso and Chess Needham

    5/5

    Ashley Molesso and Chess Needham are a queer and trans power couple that are known for their bold and eccentric stationary company, Ash + Chess. They recently released this book in 2020, and it’s a required read, full of vital information that should be taught in every school. It chronologically covered historical events and figures throughout the LGBTQ+ movement, from 600 BCE to present. Unlike our school textbooks, it didn't Whitewash history. Instead, it paid homage to people from all ethnic backgrounds, who helped pave the way for the LGBTQ+ community. Molesso and Needham also provided a helpful “Queer Dictionary,” at the end, that listed common queer terminologies, along with all of the different gender identities. 

    90% of the content in this book was unfortunately new to me. Gender and sexuality are complex topics that aren’t as simple as, male vs. female and gay vs. straight. Queer people make up such a big portion of our society, so history and sex education courses should be more inclusive. People shouldn’t have to go out of their way, or wait until college to obtain this knowledge.

    This was a very unique textbook that wasn’t just made up of large chunks of text. Each passage was followed by Molesso and Needham’s whimsical illustrations. The only concern I have is that the font was small, quirky and colorful, so this may be extremely challenging for someone with ADHD or dyslexia to read. 

STRUT

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I’m not kidding when I say 80% of my closet is thrifted. Out of these nine shoes, seven of them were secondhand. If I asked you which ones they were, would you be able to guess? I’ve seen everything, from Nike Air Forces at Goodwill to Christian Louboutins at Salvation Army, so nothing is out of reach. Here are some tips and tricks I’ve learned with bargaining for shoes over the years.

  1. DR. MARTENS BOOTS

    Wasteland

    $18

    BUY / SELL / TRADE ON HAIGHT-ASHBURY

    Before the age of Poshmark, I would frequently bus or ferry to San Francisco, in hopes of selling or trading clothes that I no longer wanted. I would lug several heavy ass bags, with me, and would sometimes only sell 5 things. Even with 5 things, you can accumulate a lot of cash or store credit if they are trendy or name brand items. Haight-Ashbury has A LOT of thrift stores, but I always had the same sequence of going from Wasteland to Buffalo Exchange to Crossroads Trading. The reason why I like Wasteland, so much, is because they only offer cash, and they always select lifestyle and high-end brands. Since they have expensive taste, they give you more money’s worth for your clothes. I always shop around before collecting my cash and, on this day, I ended up using it all on these Docs. I forget exactly how much I earned or how much the boots cost, but I only paid around $18. I do remember being shook by how low the price tag was, so it was a major steal regardless.

  2. STEVE MADDEN BOOTIES

    Poshmark

    $22

    THRIFTING ON POSHMARK

    Whenever I want something with a unique detail, I always browse through Poshmark first. To show you how refined the app can be, I will walk you through exactly how I narrowed down my search. For these booties, I started by entering the distinct keywords, “clear heels.” Then I chose the “Women’s” category and filtered down the subcategories from “Shoes” to “Ankle Boots & Booties.” I selected my shoe sizes and the color black, and as usual, I sorted the price from low to high. As I was scrolling, I tried to “like” several listings, so that I could weigh my options at the end. This makes it so much easier to compare the varying styles and prices.

  3. ALDO BOOTIES

    ALDO

    $54

    THE NEW NEW | IN-STORE SHOPPING

    These were the knock-offs I settled for because I couldn’t bring myself to buy the Jeffrey Campbell booties I actually wanted. I think the Campbells were selling for $200-300, and when they sold out, I instantly regretted not taking my chances. Over a year later, I saw these similar booties at ALDO. The belt buckles reminded me of the Campbells, and I also loved the gold plating on the heels. I debated on buying them, at first, since I thought the gold studs would be overkill. The other part that turned me off was the price. It’s silly to think that I considered buying premium booties, but still find $54 questionable. I had never shopped at ALDO before, so I was skeptical with their quality. 

    Once I purchased the shoes, I never second-guessed anything again. They are one of the most comfortable pairs I own, and I could walk and dance in them for days. They also are, in fact, extremely well-made. After seven years, they haven’t lost a single stud or endured any serious damages.

  4. CHINESE LAUNDRY BOOTIES

    Poshmark

    $0

    TRADING ON POSHMARK

    Another great thing about Postmark is that you can trade clothes with other sellers. All you have to do is pay for shipping. I scored real big with this transaction and traded my old Birkenstocks for these booties, a makeup brush, and two sweaters. There are many sellers who don’t do trades, but it never hurts to ask if you see a listing that you’re interested in. Whenever I receive a “like” from someone on my listings, I always browse their closet to see if there’s anything I’d like to trade them for.

  5. CHARLES DAVID HEELS

    Poshmark

    $14.95

    PRICE DROPS ON POSHMARK

    Whenever you “like” a listing on Poshmark, you will always be notified when the seller drops their price. I kept seeing these heels reduce over time, so once they reached $20, I bought them. I also used credit from my own sales, so they ended up being cheaper than I expected.

  6. MOSSIMO FLATS

    Goodwill

    $8.99

    PRICE CATEGORIES AT GOODWILL

    Most of the Goodwills I shop at, now have a set price for all of their shoes. Spending under $10 on shoes is a bargain, as is, but it’s even better when they are still brand new. There have been many times where I’ve snagged brand new shoes, at Goodwill, and this happened to be one of those special days.

  7. MRKT HEELS

    hand-me-down

    $0

    YOUR FRIEND’S / FAMILY’S CLOSET

    In college, I walked into my dorm room, one day, spotting these heels in the trash can. My roommate was tossing them, so I immediately claimed them as my own. I have inherited so many hand-me-downs, from friends and family, throughout my life. Whenever my friends are cleaning out their closets, I always ask for first dibs, before everything is donated. I had the best of luck in college, since all of my friends had the urge to downsize before moving back home.

  8. & OTHER STORIES SANDALS

    & Other Stories

    $57.60

    THE NEW NEW | ONLINE SHOPPING

    I had been eyeing these sandals, for months, but again, I kept contemplating on how expensive they were. Several months later, I finally made the purchase, but the shoes were slightly too big. The beautiful thing about lifestyle brands is that they tend to have free shipping and returns. Since their price points are much higher, they can afford to do this. For some weird reason, & Other Stories doesn’t have an exchange policy for online orders, so I had to ship back the shoes and buy a new pair. As I was waiting for my refund to transfer, I noticed that the price had slashed from $129 to $64. This was all a matter of perfect timing. To top it all off, I used an additional 10% discount code. Always take advantage of those email subscriptions. You can simply unsubscribe after you access the deal.

  9.  UNISA MULES

    Goodwill

    $7

    “COLOR OF THE WEEK” AT GOODWILL

    I found these mules in the more expensive shoe section of Goodwill. This particular store had a separate assortment that was curated by style and brand. I think it was no more than $15, but in terms of Goodwill, I consider anything over $10 steep. My only exceptions are furniture, luxury jewelry, or collective items. This location was also in an affluent neighborhood, so it was one bougie ass Goodwill. The price made me hesitate, but I couldn’t resist how cute and comfy the shoes were. Besides, I didn’t own anything else like them. When the cashier rung them up, I was pleased to hear that they were 50% off. Goodwill always color-coats their price tags, and, every week, they choose a different color to discount. These shoes had a white sticker, instead of a colored tag, so I just assumed they were excluded from Color of the Week. Now I know better.

xx

Dana

SPARKLE + SHINE

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It doesn’t feel like holiday season without some glitter. Black and gold are my favorite colors, so I naturally stuck with this color palette. The highlight of this look is definitely the pleated metallic skirt that I got from Goodwill. Since the skirt is high-waisted, I paired it with my Are You Am I crop top.

Unlike the skirt, which was only $6.99, the top was a major splurge. It’s actually one of the most expensive items I own. Even with a discount, it cost about $116. You probably think I’m insane for spending this much on a top, let alone a cropped one, but I had been eying it months before I bought it. I really appreciate its cut, construction, and hand-feel. The knock-offs I saw were missing that crisp square neckline and low-cut back. This top was made from a soft and cozy fiber, called modal, and the long sleeves make it more winter-friendly.

To reflect the sheen of my skirt, I kept my jewelry gold-toned. Ever since I followed Jenn Im on YouTube, she ingrained the idea in me that your metals should always match. For instance, if you choose gold earrings, then you should stay consistent with your necklace, bracelet and ring. After she demonstrated this, I couldn’t unsee it. Now I’m even anal about my purse straps. Aside from having a gold chain, I also thought that my faux fur pouch was fitting for the holidays. It just adds an oomph of class.

For extra warmth, I layered on my mom’s oversized peacoat. I wish I knew the story behind it because it has a Hong Kong address and telephone number printed on the label. Somehow, she thrifted this foreign-made coat that was tailored to petite women, like us. Not only was it well-made, but it still looks brand new. Everything down to the lining was beautifully sewn, and there are even hidden pockets on the inside.

To tie everything together, you can’t go wrong with a classic pair of black heels. They match with almost anything and can instantly elevate your style.

These days, I find it difficult to tell the worth and quality of most garments. This outfit is a prime example of how looks can be deceiving. The most lavish pieces were secondhand, while the simplest one had the highest price tag. Modern day fashion has become a guessing game, but that’s what makes it more fun.

+ Lipstick | MAC’s Hang Up

+ Necklace | Forever 21

+ Purse | Poshmark

+ Crop Top | Are You Am I

+ Skirt | Abound (Goodwill)

+ Coat | Lun Fong (hand-me-down)

+ Heels | Urban Outfitters

Photography | Adam Redfield

xx

Dana

FOR THE LOVE OF LEATHER

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Everyone has that special item they've always dreamed of having one day. It could be anything from a Gucci bag to a pair of Jordans, or a Canon camera to a Tesla. Being in the fashion industry, there are MANY things that I want, but at the very top of my wishlist was a genuine leather jacket. Initially, I just wanted the perfect motorcycle jacket, regardless of the material, but after owning two pleather jackets, I wanted to try the real deal.

Disclaimer: I do have two genuine leather hand-me-downs from my mom, but they're coats. I wanted something casual that could go with more outfits. The coats are by Bebe and Frenchi, but naturally, my mom thrifted them both. It amazes me how they're still in mint condition after all these years. She owned them for over a decade, but who knows how long the previous owners had them for. In comparison to my pleather jackets, they aged much better.

The first one I had was a Silence + Noise bomber from Urban Outfitters (UO). It cost $128, which is quite expensive for faux leather. My friends, Ann and Angela, ended up splitting the price with me, for Christmas. When I wore it to high school for the first time, I felt a confusing mix of insecurity and fearlessness. It was such a statement, since no other girls were wearing leather at the time. It was a popular trend I saw on Tumblr and Lookbook, but not at my school. I received more compliments than I expected, and it quickly became one of my staple pieces. For the next five years, I wore it until it shred into pieces. 

The last one I got was a motorcycle jacket from YesStyle. Unlike the UO jacket, it was ridiculously affordable. I remember it being no more than $40 with shipping. Most leather jackets are fitted, but this one was thinner and looser. I liked how I could layer sweaters underneath it, but the silhouette was chunkier than I wanted. I didn’t wear it nearly as much as the UO one, but it was cheaper to keep than to ship back to Korea. Even with less wear, it still managed to peel at the collar.

After having two pleather jackets wear down, I asked the Internet if genuine leather has this same issue and it said “no.” Although genuine leather is easily scuffed, it doesn’t crack, as proven with my mom’s old coats. I don’t mind scratches, since they add more edginess and authenticity, but peeling will actually strip away the “leather” detail. It’s also irritating having to constantly clean up tiny black remnants. With all of this information, I convinced myself to invest in genuine leather, especially since I knew I'd wear it so much.

Before I decided to splurge on genuine leather, I already had an elaborate list of what I wanted in the jacket. Over the years, I browsed everywhere, including Asos, Zara, and Urban Outfitters, but I couldn't find any that met my standards. It frustrated me how contemporary leather jackets were mainly cropped and tight-fitted. This is the list of what I was actually looking for:

  1. classic motorcycle collars

  2. silver hardware

  3. regular bottom length

  4. regular sleeve length

  5. room for a long-sleeved shirt or light sweater

  6. no belt along the waist

In the genuine leather market, Acne Studios is the holy grail, but their prices are well over $1,000. The only garment I would ever spend this much on is probably my wedding dress. The next best option is AllSaints, which also has high quality and consistent branding. I've always admired their visual merchandising and dark and industrial style. Their leather jackets are mainly made from lambskin and are in the $500 range. This is about 1/3 of an Acne jacket, but is no doubt, still very expensive.

Leather jacket sizing is very unpredictable, since it heavily fluctuates, depending on the brand. Most tend to run small, but I didn't expect AllSaints to be this farfetched. I went to both their regular and outlet store to compare sizes, prices, and styles. I quickly realized that they're far from being size inclusive. Their jackets stop at size 10, which fit me like a small. I'm usually a size two, so it's insane that I had to upsize by four sizes. After trying on all of the motorcycle jackets they had, I chose the Dalby, which checked off every box on my list.

As I do before most of my purchases, I checked Poshmark to see if it had a better deal. There was only one person selling a size 10 Dalby jacket. It's listed at $450 on AllSaints, but I got this brand new one for $300.

After all these trials, you can say that I'm a tad bit leather crazy. I even have a tattoo of a girl in leather, so this more than just a trend to me. The leather jacket is a timeless design that I really value. This is the most I've spent on any clothing item, but at least it was still thrifted.

+ Lipstick | MAC’s Ruby Woo

+ Choker | Etsy

+ Bandana | Romwe

+ Leather Jacket | AllSaints (Poshmark)

+ T-Shirt | Romwe

+ Jeans | Abercrombie

+ Booties | Forever 21

Photography | Adam Redfield

xx

Dana

DANGEROUS WOMAN

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As I was looking through my closet for Halloween ideas, I saw this babydoll dress that reminded me of Ariana Grande. I thrifted it at Goodwill, last year, but still haven’t had the chance to wear it. With this dress, I already completed half of my costume, so it was the perfect piece to build on.

There are certain elements that define Ariana’s signature style. Aside from babydoll dresses, chokers, over-the-knee boots, and sky-high ponytails are also her trademark. Her Dangerous Woman look resonates with me most, since it’s so dark and sultry. For my costume, I wanted to recreate that album cover.

The most iconic part of the cover was definitely her latex bunny mask. Wearing skintight fabric over my head sounded extremely uncomfortable, so I chose this lace one for more breathability. I thought the veil was more fitting for Halloween, and it could also be tucked back if needed. 

Although I do own over-the-knee boots, I opted for these booties, since they elongate my legs more. My over-the-knee boots are flat, whereas these platforms are 2.75” tall.

The choker was the most difficult item to find, since most of the faux diamond chokers I saw were really tacky. Ariana wore a chunky diamond necklace that I would imagine Marilyn Monroe or Audrey Hepburn wearing. I wanted to emulate that classic Hollywood glam, but anything similar was completely out of my budget. Instead, I thrifted this BaubleBar choker for $8 on Poshmark.

For the final touch, I tried my best to do her high ponytail, but it was such a struggle. Doing hair isn’t my forte, even with a simple ponytail, like this. I spent around 30 minutes retying my hair and it still drooped to a regular ass ponytail. My goal is to perfect her hairstyle by Halloween.

This was a fairly easy costume to put together, since most of the garments were things that the average American girl wears. Chokers, stockings and black boots are staple pieces that many of us have. Tying a ponytail is also priceless. If you decide to be Ariana for Halloween, then you’re probably already halfway there.

+ Lipstick | MAC’s Black Knight

+ Mask | Amazon

+ Choker | BaubleBar (Poshmark)

+ Dress | Goodwill

+ Stockings | Romwe

+ Booties | Steve Madden (Poshmark)

Photography | Adam Redfield

xx

Dana

THINK VERTICALLY

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I have never owned a jumpsuit, since they never seem to fit me. I’m 5’2”, so most are too long, and I’m too lazy to tailor anything. I randomly found this in the dress section of Goodwill, and I really liked its muted minimal stripes. For a white secondhand garment, I was surprised by how spotless it was. I walked into the fitting room with very low expectations, since my experience with jumpsuits always ended the same. This time it was different, and the jumpsuit fit like a glove. 

Without shoes, the hem touched the ground, but it didn’t my swallow my feet. Everything about it was just so flattering. It has criss-cross straps that completely expose my back, and the high-waisted silhouette lifts and accentuates my butt. There are deep side pockets that can fit my phone, keys, and wallet. The vertical stripes even elongate my figure and make me look taller. The only thing I don’t like about this jumpsuit is how complicated it is to get in and out of it. If you know me, you know that I drink a A LOT of water and that I pee A LOT in result of that. It would be a bitch for me to wear this all day long, so I would only wear it to short outings.

+ Hoop Earrings | Claire’s

+ Jumpsuit | Forever 21 (Goodwill)

+ Heels | MRKT (hand-me-down)

Photography | Adam Redfield

xx

Dana

RIHANNA RED

BEFORE

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Rihanna's Loud album was the inspiration behind my hair. On the cover, she had this exact same fiery red. She's one of my top fashion icons and I look to her for many hair and wardrobe ideas. I just love how unapologetic and unpredictable she is. Loud was released in 2010, so it took me almost a decade to do this. 

The Internet simply confused me, and I couldn’t find a general consensus on whether I had to my bleach my hair or not. Black hair is always tricky to work with, since extreme colors usually require bleach. Some said they had to start with bleach, while others said they achieved the color without it. Since I couldn’t find the answer, myself, I emailed Lan, who dyed my hair last year. She ironically did the same shade several months ago and bleach was in fact, the answer.

Last year, she dyed my entire hair blonde, but it had grown down to my ears. I’m so glad that I reached out to her because I would have grown it out, otherwise. Before moving onto another color, I wanted to appreciate the blonde for as long as possible. Now that I knew it would save so much time and money, I booked an appointment, immediately.

AFTER

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This session took a total of 5 hours, which is half the amount of time it took to go blonde. Lan began by bleaching my hair and leaving it in for 2.5 hours. She had me sit under a heating lamp to help speed up the process. The bottom portion of my hair was already blonde, so the color was really uneven after being bleached. The top half was yellow, while the bottom half was nearly platinum. I was worried that this would also make the red uneven, but I didn’t see any patchiness, at all.

After washing and blowdrying my hair, Lan applied the red dye, which made my scalp extremely tingly. It was really uncomfortable, at first, but the feeling disappeared after 15 minutes. She sat me under the lamp for another 30 minutes, and then shampooed and conditioned my hair, again. She left my roots unbleached and dyed it burgundy, so that it will look more natural once it grows. For the final touch, she sprayed my hair with Ionic Color Lock to help retain the color. 

The red turned out exactly as I envisioned, and I walked out of the salon feeling like a completely different person. It’s the boldest color I've ever done, so I definitely turn heads and stand out everywhere where I go. Not only is it a kickass color, but it’s also so forgiving and low-maintenance. Unlike shades of blonde and pastel, I only have to use red shampoo, once a week, to maintain its vibrancy. This is the best color experiment I’ve had yet, and I can’t wait to come back to see what else Lan can do.

+ Tube Top | Wild Fable (Poshmark)

+ Necklace | Etsy

+ Lipstick | MAC’s Ruby Woo

xx

Dana

APRIL THRIFT HAUL

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1. STEVE MADDEN BOOTIES

Poshmark

$22

These are the first Steve Madden’s I’ve ever owned and they are so sleek and sexy. It took me a while to find clear-heeled booties because most of them are too high. I’m all about comfort, which is why I always wear wedges and booties for nights out. They add height, but still allow me to walk and dance all night long. The ankle section of these boots are skintight, so I wouldn’t be able to tuck jeans underneath. Even then, I like its modern shape, since it makes me feel like some kind of superhero. 

2. VICTORIA’S SECRET BRA

Poshmark

$5

At 25-years-old, I’ve finally gotten the memo on how to wash bras. My mama never told me not to put my bras in the dryer, so I’ve been doing it wrong my whole life. It took shredding my “everyday” bra and shrinking my sports bra, this month, to realize that. Bras are such delicate little garments, especially since they’re made from fine fabrics, like lace, silk, and satin. Although I rarely wear them, I like owning one, just in case. There are certain clothes and occasions where my pasties won’t do justice. After ruining the one padded bra I own, I bought this one from Poshmark. The velvet and deep jewel tone is what caught my eye, but this secondhand find is nowhere near perfect. It has a tiny hole that the seller conveniently failed to mention. Now that I’m going to start hang drying my bras, hopefully this one will last, even with its hole.

3. ATHLETA LEGGINGS

Poshmark

$15

My boss bought a pair of Athleta leggings, and I was so amazed by how soft they were. For years, I’ve been wearing cheap Forever 21 leggings. I’m on my third black pair, since the $3.90 price tag definitely reflects the durability. These will last one to two years, before they start ripping and I’ll have to replace them again. When I felt my boss’ leggings, I was convinced to invest in a pair of higher quality ones that will last. I’m tired of constantly having to buy replacements, since it’s so bad for the environment. Black leggings are also the bottoms I wear most, so why shouldn’t I buy the very best? I was really excited when I saw these reversible Athleta ones on Poshmark. Athleta leggings are normally in the $100 price range, but I paid $15 for two-in-one. On one side, is a greyscale ombre and on the other, is a solid black. These are by far, the most comfortable leggings I’ve ever owned. I’ve only known Forever 21 leggings, and these are much smoother than any of them.

4. CHEAP MONDAY SKIRT

Asos

$32.50

While writing my blog on Cheap Monday, I browsed what was left of their final collection and saw this skirt. I first saw this style, on Pinterest, and was searching everywhere for it! Most denim skirts have a rectangular silhouette, so I really liked this high-low cut. The Pinterest link led to Tumblr, so I had no idea what brand it was or if it was even available for purchase. It could have been a DIY, for all I know. When I saw this similar version on Asos, I couldn’t believe the odds. I discovered the pin, over a year ago, but had no luck finding the skirt. Now that I was shopping a brand that was closing down, I saw exactly what I wanted. It originally cost $89, but it was marked over 50% off.

5. RUFFLE TODDLER BLANKET

Free Birdees

$26 (for employees only)

My work just launched a line of bamboo kids clothes in January, and our material is ultra soft. Our pajamas don’t come in my size, so I wanted to buy a blanket, since the hand-feel is so amazing. These are toddler blankets, but my boss made them 60” long to accommodate adults. Sometimes my legs get really itchy, at night, and no matter how much lotion I apply, it doesn’t help. Once I take off my pants and cover my legs with the blanket, it immediately soothes my skin. Bamboo is especially good for hot summer weather, since it’s so breathable. Our blankets come in 5 solid colors and 8 prints. I helped design these prints and select our colors, so you should check them out! We actually just released our second collection on Endangered Animals, so there are a lot of fresh products on our website.

6. H&M HOODIE

Poshmark

$8

I had an identical version of this, from Romwe, but I accidentally ripped it this month. I know I have a big ass head, but Romwe’s clothes run very small. Whenever I shop there, it’s either a hit or miss. I bought that sweatshirt over two years ago, in a medium, but it fit like an extra small. The neckline was really tight, so I’ve finally ripped it, while tugging it over my head. I’ve been wanting an upgrade, anyways, since the mesh was so stiff and itchy. This H&M one looks practically the same, but is much softer and stretchier.

7. GYMSHARK CROP TOP

Poshmark

$28.95

I don’t know what it is about me and expensive black crop tops, but this is the second one I’ve bought this year. This one is a lot cheaper than the other one I got, but $30 is still out of my norm. Although I thrifted this on Poshmark, the resale value of Gymshark is barely lower than the retail price. According to the seller, this top was also brand new. I really wanted to try this brand, since I’ve been weightlifting for over two years and it’s very popular amongst weightlifters. I bought the top in a size small, but it fits more like an extra small. It’s stretchy, comfortable, and flattering and will be perfect for hiking and weightlifting. Because of the tight fit, I won’t be able to use it for high intensity workouts, though. Even if I raise my arms to do jumping jacks, the top would rise above my chest…

xx

Dana

RIP

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As I was deep cleaning my closet this New Years, I found an old pair of jeans from high school that I was going to sell. These were buried with other clothes I already listed on Poshmark. For years, they had been sitting in a suitcase, while I was in college. My cousin gave them to me for Christmas, but they were too loose and bulky for me back then. Over four years later, I rediscovered them to find that I have finally grown into them. 

These were my first pair of Cheap Mondays, so I was hit with a buttload of nostalgia. My first instinct was to stalk them on Instagram to catch up on what’s new. All I saw was a blank white page with the bio, “R.I.P. Cheap Monday 2004-2019.” Just as I was reminded of an old favorite, I learned that it will be discontinued within the same year.

Although the jeans didn’t fit, at first, this introduced me to a badass lifestyle brand. I was really infatuated by the company’s bold and edgy branding. Even its farewell is cheeky and is consistent with who they are. Just take a look at its last marketing video and what’s left of its website, to see what I mean. 

Cheap Monday is a Swedish company that actually began as a thrift store. It didn’t start selling jeans until March 10, 2004, which also happened to be my birthday. I had just turned 10, so Cheap Monday was completely out of my radar. H&M then purchased the label in 2008 and turned it into a wholesale business. Many reputable retailers, like Asos, Urban Outfitters, and Opening Ceremony, carried its denim. It initially focused on a niche of skinny jeans, but later expanded to other clothes and accessories. Over the years, wholesaling proved to be difficult and Cheap Monday’s sales exceedingly plummeted. This has forced the brand to close all of its stores and wholesale accounts by June.

I made my first and last real Cheap Monday purchase this week. I’ve owned four pairs of Cheap Mondays, but three had been thrifted. The skull logo is very hard to miss, even at overflowing thrift stores. The ones I’m wearing are mid-rise, medium washed, and straight-legged. I normally go for a skinny fit, so I always roll these up. Otherwise, they look really crinkly at the bottom. Unlike some of my other jeans, I never have to worry about readjusting these. It also has oversized pockets that can fit the largest of wallets and smartphones. 

For many years, Cheap Monday was my premium choice for denim. I rarely have luck shopping for jeans, so I have yet to find that holy grail brand. If you have suggestions for petite, skinny girls, like me, do list them below. Your girl likes her jeans skinny, stretchy, and high-waisted.

+ Lipstick | MAC’s Heroine

+ Earrings | Old Navy

+ Backpack | Wilson’s Leather (Poshmark)

+ Scarf | gift

+ T-Shirt | Mudd (Mervyn’s)

+ Jeans | Cheap Monday (Opening Ceremony)

+ Belt | YesStyle

+ Boots | Dr. Martens (Wasteland)


Photography | Adam Redfield

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xx

Dana

BIRTHDAY HAUL

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1. Teakwood + Tobacco Soy Candle

Urban Outfitters

$20

On my birthday week, my friend Roberto came to my doorstep with the most beautifully wrapped present. It came in a black translucent box with black ribbon and black tissue paper. I was floored by the gift wrapping, alone, since he put so much thought and effort into reflecting my style. Inside was this soy candle that smelled amazing. I’m extremely picky with candles, so I was really impressed that he was able to get the scent on point. I typically strive for musky and natural smells, like pinewood and cedar, so teakwood and tobacco is a similar combination. As much as I liked the scent, once I lit the candle, I could barely smell a thing. It was pretty anticlimactic, since it’s so rare for me to find one that I actually like. I think this would be perfect for an intimate space, like a desk or bathroom. If you want it to fill up a large area, like a bedroom or living room, then you would need a cluster of 2 or 3. This taught me that you can never truly tell what a candle smells like, until you set it.

2. Ruby Woo Lipstick

MAC

$15.30

I am a very loyal MAC consumer when it comes to lipstick. My friend, Angela, brainwashed me with MAC Cosmetics in middle school, so I haven’t bought any other lipstick since. I love their matte selections, since they have so many rich and bold colors. Their lipstick also doesn’t smudge and lasts all day long. I only have to reapply it once, if at all, throughout the day. Their packaging is my other favorite part, since the lipstick comes in sleek black tubes. I have accumulated many MAC lipsticks, but I’ve never owned one of their classic red ones. I will be dying my hair bright red, next month, so I wanted to get a shade that will match.

3. TOWEL SET

Target

$41.24

You know you’re getting “old” when you ask for towels for your birthday. My house has a plethora of towels, but 95% of them are plain white ones. The only set that actually belongs to me is a black and grey tribal printed one. I bought it for college and have been using it for over 6 years. After interchanging between this and my mom’s old white towels, I thought it was time to switch it up and add another color. This blush set includes 2 washcloths, 2 hand towels, and 2 bath towels. It’s always a good feeling when you get something that’s not only useful, but will last for years to come.

4. SNORLAX PLUSH

Amazon

$19.99

I’ve been wanting a Snorlax plush for so, so long. I just never bought one because I struggled with my “want vs. need.” My friend, Emily, actually surprised me with this Snorlax on my birthday. It sparked me with so much joy, so I guess I needed it, after all. For 3 nights in a row, I snuggled with it, like a 5-year-old, and every time I look at it, it makes me happy. I didn’t think I was a stuffed animal person, but now I want an Umbreon, Totoro and Puppycat to complete my collection.

5. BOTTLE OPENER

Amazon

$12.99

I hardly drink beer, but a bottle opener is such an essential kitchen tool. If you ever have people over, there’s always bound to be someone asking for it. I stumbled upon this beaut on Pinterest and knew that I had to have it. I mean, cat-shaped AND gold? This bottle opener was basically made for me. My best friend, Ann, got it for my birthday, which was the perfect timing. I used it immediately to open a bottle of rose at my party.

xx

Dana

FEBRUARY THRIFT HAUL

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1. TREND BASICS SNEAKERS

Eco Thrift

$4.49

Several months ago, I had to toss out a similar pair of shoes because they were tearing apart. It was a shame, since the white was so easy to coordinate with. When I went to Eco Thrift, I saw several of this same style, but by different brands. I chose this pair, since they looked brand new, and I wear them almost every week, now.

2. NIKE SPORTS BRA

Poshmark

$7

I actually owned this exact same bra in a small, but I sold it because it was too tight. Even though I’m an A-cup in regular bras, I’ve learned that with sports bras, I have to size up. Otherwise, it’s just straight-up painful. The beauty of Poshmark is that I was able to sell my old one and buy a new one at a lower price. If you play your cards right, on Poshmark, you can save so much money.

3. GOLD BASKETS

H&M

$15.75

I’ve been wanting to rearrange my bedroom for so long, but I’ve put it off for over a year. I have this old brown cabinet that I want to sell, but it stored so much of my papers and supplies. My temporary solution is to use small baskets to clear out the drawers. I browsed on Pinterest and on many home goods websites. I even went to Target and Marshalls, but the only look I liked was this metallic one. Spending over $30 on two baskets sounds ridiculous, but this price was surprisingly the norm. I’ve always had a thing for gold-wired baskets, and this one can fit A LOT of crap.

4. MORAL FIBER CARDIGAN

Goodwill

$9.99

Every girl needs a basic cardigan that goes with everything, and I finally found mine. The charcoal matches with any color, and the material is so soft and comfortable. It has that special hand-feel that would make people want to cuddle with you.

5. NOBLE U DRESS

Eco Thrift

$6.57

This burnt orange dress will be perfect for the fall, especially with some knee-high boots. It gives a lot of coverage, but is very form-fitting. The tight silhouette really accentuates the curves and toosh. There’s also a caged cutout that’s supposed to be worn in front, but it looks just as good in the back, as well.

6. METHOD BODY WASH

Target

$6.29

This body wash smells so, so good. It’s a blend of coconut, rice milk, and shea butter, and it feels so nourishing against my skin. One small dab goes a long way, so I think this large bottle will last a year, if not more. Method is known for its natural and cruelty-free cleaning supplies, like dish soap and detergent. It only just begun producing body washes, and for all the eco-friendly qualities that its products have, the prices are extremely reasonable.

7. FOREVER 21 TRENCH COAT

Goodwill

$6.50

For a Forever 21 duster, this fabric feels really smooth and luxurious. It’s almost like a baby version of suede. Although this is a piece of outerwear, it’s very lightweight and has room for very thick layers. Because it’s so thin, it will be a nice transition piece for spring, since the weather will be less chilly, but still slightly rainy and windy.

8. WILD FABLE TUBE TOP

Poshmark

$5

As a fashion graduate, I’m always coming up with new outfit in my head. Last year, I thrifted a mesh jersey, on Poshmark, and thought that it would pair best with a black tube top. Tube tops are such classic staple pieces, but I’ve never owned a simple solid one, like this. This is a versatile item that can be turned into so many different looks.

9. SKORT

Eco Thrift

$3.19

The last time I owned a skort was probably in elementary school. I’d choose a skort over a skirt, any day, but it’s unfortunately a rare find. Based on the stitching and lack of labels, this one was definitely homemade. Its vibrant shade of red is what caught my eye, and this alone, will make it a really fun piece to style.

10. NIKE AIR FORCE 1

Goodwill

$9.99

These kicks were released in 2016, so the previous owner certainly put good wear into them. I was hesitant to buy them, at first, since the white had faded to beige. Even then, there are no prominent stains. Unless you held the shoes up to your face, you wouldn’t be able to tell that they are 3-years-old. These sneakers have the magic of making sweatpants look good, so I’m looking forward to wearing them on my lazy days.

11. FOREVER 21 BIKINI TOP

Poshmark

$9

I was contemplating on buying this bikini for Indonesia, last summer, but I regrettably chose not to. It quickly sold out, within a week, so I’ve been trying to find it on Poshmark, since. I finally saw a listing, this month, but the seller had a different sized top and bottom. I only bought the top, and I’m really loving its fit and color combination. Normally I don’t like color, but I’ve always had a soft spot for blush and mauve. Fingers crossed that I can somehow find the matching bottoms to this set.

xx

Dana

LADY LAMB

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Nothing is more difficult to thrift than a good quality jacket. Tops? I have so many that I’ve created a selling/donations pile. Bottoms? I’ve collected all sorts, from skirts to shorts to jeans. Dresses? I always end up lugging an armful to the fitting room. Shoes? Your girl is an average size 7, so that’s never an issue.

Outerwear is a tricky category because the ones I see at thrift stores are often too big or too heavy. I want to stay warm, but I don’t want to be weighed down. Most of my coats and jackets are actually hand-me-downs because I can’t bring myself to splurge on them. I rarely find anything in my budget that’s worthwhile, and thrifting has proven to be a challenge.

It took me months, if not a year, to find a jacket, like this. I was infatuated with shearling after seeing my favorite YouTuber, Jenn Im, feature it on her channel. Her jacket is from a Korean brand, called K-styleme, which has unfortunately been discontinued. I got this similar version, from Poshmark, which practically looks the same. They both have biker collars, silver hardware, and all-over white shearling.

My jacket is by UNIF, which is an edgy streetwear label based in Los Angeles. It prides itself on scarcity and limited styles, and its outerwear sells from the mid to high $100 range. When I spotted this on Poshmark, it was already listed below $100, but I bargained it down to $60. The material was in mint condition, so the price was more than reasonable. Still, this is probably the most I’ve spent on a jacket because I’m the stingiest shopper, ever.

This fluffy piece has been with me since fall 2016, and it always keeps me warm and toasty in the winter. Whenever I wear it, I don’t even need to carry a bag because there are enough pockets for all of my essentials. It has two regular side pockets, two upper breast pockets, and a camouflaged bottom pocket that I failed to notice until last month. I like packing light, and this oversized jacket can hold my phone, wallet, keys, and lip balm. It allows me to be hands and hassle free, which I love.

+ Jacket | UNIF (Poshmark)

+ Crop Top | Forever 21

+ Leggings | Forever 21

+ Tote | Leonisa (MAGIC Trade Show)

+ Flats | Urban Outfitters

+ Earrings | Romwe


Photography | Adam Redfield


xx


Dana

SEASON'S GREETINGS

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Growing up in an Asian American household, we never did Christmas cards. My dad always carried a camera, taking tons of pictures of us, but we never had a professional family portrait. This is a concept that my parents, along with many other Asian immigrants, aren't used to. Hiring a photographer and personalizing cards, every year, is a very excessive and obscure idea. 

It actually wasn’t until my parents immigrated here, that they started celebrating Christmas. Since it’s such a big holiday, in America, my mom wanted my brother and I to feel accustomed to the culture. Although my mom was Buddhist, she did this to bring happiness and inclusion to our family. It has been my favorite holiday, for as long as I can remember, and I look forward to it every year.

This is my first time doing Christmas cards, and I got to share this moment with Basic Invite. My boyfriend and I happened to meet during the holiday season, so this is the perfect way to cherish that memory. Basic Invite has over 500 holiday cards, so I was overwhelmed by the many choices. I gravitated towards the foil finishes, which is available in gold, silver and rose gold. Aside from foil, the main customizations they offer are over 40 envelope colors and over 180 graphic colors. Once you choose the card you want, you can edit the fonts and colors, in any way.

Other useful services they have are custom samples and an address capturing system. Before placing a large order, you can request a sample to see what the final design looks like. To make collecting names and addresses easier, you will be given a link that can be shared on any social platform. Your loved ones can fill out their information, if they wish, and the best part is that address printing is free for all Christmas orders.

Instead of using their customized shipping method, I chose to bulk order a small batch to my house. Even though the estimated delivery was three weeks, I received my order within ten days. The cards came professionally packaged in a tiny stuffed box. It even included a complimentary paper ornament with our photograph. The cards were beautiful, but the color and lighting of the pictures were off. It was slightly darker than what I submitted, but I decided to keep them, anyways. I didn’t want to wait another two weeks for a reprint, but the option is there, if you aren’t satisfied with the quality. Basic Invite has a “Love It Guarantee,” where they will issue a full refund or reprint the cards to meet your standards.

I’m always open to new experiences, so I wanted to give Christmas cards a try. Would I do it again? Meh, maybe every five years, or so. As festive and aesthetically pleasing as it is, I don’t see the point in having them, unless I’ve reached a new milestone. Once I get married or have kids, I’d definitely to do this again, but for now, I’ll lay low.

Although I’ve never understood holiday cards, this won’t tarnish my love for stationary. Basic Invite covers all sorts of events and announcements, like births, birthdays and weddings. Creating holiday cards might not be my thing, but that doesn’t mean I don’t enjoy receiving and collecting them. If you’re a Christmas fanatic, who lives for these traditions, then I highly recommend Basic Invite. The customer service is extremely accommodating, the process is user-friendly and the designs are endless. The website walks you through every corner of the card, making sure that it’s everything you want.

xx

Dana